I give him everything and he's never happy with me,help me PLEASE, i'm a divorce mom, his dad doesn't want to hear about it.
He only pick my kids on the weekend.
2006-08-28 06:12:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im sure he dosnt hate you but like you said he is spoilt.he has forgot his role in being just a kid and you need to stop giving him everythink he wants!! i no its hard,im having the same problem with my son,is is only 7 but i try and give him everythink,so far in his room he has a 21in tv,xbox,pc with internet,hifi system,double bed..he has the lot and all because i feel when he is naughty ect if i buy him things he will love me and stop misbehaving!! WRONG,truth i have learned now is to become more harder on him,not to hit him or anythink like that but to show him he only gets stuff now if he earns it.its hard at first coz wen he cries and has a tantrum coz ive stopped his tv i gave in,but that way it dont get solved.its about being strong and showing your boy your his mum and he is your son.dont let him rule you,let him no he needs to earn the stuff he wants.no kids hate there parents even if they say they do.maybe its also that he upset about the divorse,have you spoke to him about it?try and communicate with your son more,get more closser to him..show him that you need each other.what is he like at his dads?has the behaviour happened since the divorse,when a divorse happens sometimes the kid can feel like its his fault..i think maybe you should talk to him,ask him if anythink is troubleing him.all the best
2006-08-28 06:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by sammydeea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem you are giving him everything but what he really needs, bounders. We are not our children's friends but their care takers. They have enough friends. Even though you and their father are no longer married you both still need to be parents. It takes a real man to father a child esp. a son. Your son might also be angry and may be blaming you for the divorce. Stop giving if material things and start being a mom. It is okay to say no and trust me if you don't nip this in but your son will end up hurting you or himself. Personally if he was mine I would whop his behind where the sun doesn't shine. That is what is wrong these days kids don't get their behinds spanked anymore.
2006-08-28 06:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a social worker together. You should not be giving him everything. That's probably a part of the problem. Not to mention he's gone through the divorce of his parents and his Dad doesn't want to help. Poor kid. Go seek advice together to build a son and mother relationship before it's too late and his whole life is messed up.
2006-08-28 06:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start taking things away, and don't let him be the boss, you're the bigger person you have to put your foot down. Don't let him continue to push you around and if he is totally uncontrolable tell him and if nessacary send him to a military school or a boot camp, to learn some respect. I used to get my butt beat, but thats not really aloud anymore and he is old enough to know it. But the longer you let him get away will stuff like that the worse it will be, believe me have a very similar problem in my family, and the parent has given up and the child controls her! Good luck to you.
2006-08-28 06:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by scoobydoo783 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take everything you ever got him such as videos,games and gaming equipment,t.v.,movies,stereo,CD's,and phone priviages.Tell him he got all this stuff because you love him and want him to be happy, but rightnow he is not doing things to deserve these privilages.Tell him he will have to earn them back one at a time for every day he's respectful give him back one item.Start with the small stuff first like give him a game and once he's earned all his games back then give him the gaming device.When he's disrespectful take everthing back and make him start over.I know it seems harsh,but he really needs to learn respect is something you give if it's respect you want to be treated with.
2006-08-28 06:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've given him too much. Maybe you should ignore his wants and needs for a while so he realizes how good he has it. It worked for me and my 13 year old (only child and his father & I have been divorced 12 years). Now he is very responsible and respectful.
2006-08-28 06:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem with my 12yr. old. Her dad passed away 2yrs. ago. I've learned feeling bad for her and giving in to her every demand has only made things worse. No longer except his behavior,make him accountable for his actions, by being consistent....warning him of what action will be taken if he continues with his behavior and as hard as it will be....stick to it!!! examples: no phone calls, tv, play station ect. from the time he was told til the following day. This will seem much harder on you, intil he realizes you mean buisness and will not let him slide.
2006-08-28 06:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him everything. Make him work for it. He needs a feeling of accomplishment as much as we do. Call a family therapist, that will help a great deal.
Good luck, kids are tough little buggers
2006-08-28 06:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the age (but never tell him that!)- be understanding and try to really LISTEN to him - if he acts up, ask him what's going on. He'll be human again in a few years- LOL! Don't forget, it's hard to be 13!
2006-08-28 06:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Europa312 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should stop giving him everything he wants and start making him respect you, cause obviously he don't..If you don't do something now its just going to get worse..he knows he has you wrapped around his finger, and he knows what strings to pull on you..
2006-08-28 06:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by patti f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋