I'm a guy who likes another guy and i dont know if he is gay or not... what should i DO???? I think he is... we keep having these really intense moments where we lock eyes. if i do ask or talk to him about it, what should i say? if i'm wrong i really dont wanna offend him... oh and he plays soccer! how hot is that???
Please dont leav hate messages. i would never criticize your life style! : )
2006-08-28 06:10:50 · 23 answers · asked by Michael Reynolds 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
just talk to him more! try like touching him on the arm when talking and see his reaction of being touched by another man.
2006-08-28 06:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation. The jury is still out. We were on an overnight trip to Daytona beach and we had to share the same bed for the night we were lying in bed (head-to-foot) and we were talking. I was resting my arm across his legs. he didn't seem to care. He was wearing some loose shorts so I put my hand by the opening, still no reaction. I then placed my hand directly beneath his balls he just kinda shifted his position slightly and we kept talking he didn't indicate anything and was cool, but I still dont know. Or maybe he is just dense. I have done everything I can short of telling him I want him.
If he always wants to be around you, doesn't mind you touching him, and you lock eyes frequently he could be telling you something. Especially locking eyes, I have found that gay guys usually make intense eye contact with their subject whereas straight guys just make casual glances at the subject they are talking with. And it does help if you already have a friendship with this person or at least talk to them on a normal basis. If you can get them alone tha would be good to, people tend to act different in a crowd then they do one-on-one
2006-08-30 00:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by energonfire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend of mine is gay. I once asked him how he knows if other people are when he is out. Basically meaning how does he get a date with another gay man. He said it's all about the eye contact. If you ask other guys many of them don't have have intense moments of eye contact. Someone usually looks away. When two gays meet eyes and neither look away than there is a good chance they might be interested in each other. It's almost as if they have a secret language. Now, if you are afraid to ask him directly which could get really weird and awkward than just take a little time and try and get to know him. See how he reacts to just hanging around you. Remember you seem very open about it which is cool. But if he is he might not be ready to "come" out. So just take your time and see where things go. If he is you will probably know sooner than later.
2006-08-28 13:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by AB11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.....I had pretty much the same expierence. I liked this girl who was straight..or so she said, and we hungout alot. My feelings really started to grow and we would have the same moments when we would lock eyes. We talked for hours on the phone and comp..After awhile I would make little moves, such as sitting really close to her..placing my hand somewhat on hers and rubbing it with my thumb...she didnt do it back but didnt pull away either..So one night I kissed her out of nowhere and she kissed me back. We have been together 8 months now and she is also my future wife!!
If you feel that he is like you, and feels the attraction, start off by making little moves.If you watch a movie or even just hangout stand or sit extra close and see how that goes. If it goes well step it up a little to handholding. Its all in body language, if he doesnt pull away thats a very good sign. If he seems shy after thats ok, he most likely felt good that you did it but doesnt know how to respond. I hope this helps and good luck getting your man!
2006-08-28 14:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you lock your eyes the feelings you have is the indication that he also like to lock the eys
.Just touch him and rub him on his hand, if there is no obection from him rub his thighs and if ther is no objection rub his inner thighs.
We you are happy or excited moments (not sexually) hug him.
If there is no prob you can talk to him about iy.
BUT IT IS QUITE ANTUARL FOR BOYS TO HAVE SUCH A FEELING TOWARDS OTHER BOYS. It does nto mean that you and your friend are gay
2006-08-28 15:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by testmail18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably are gay, but that's OK, it's not horrible for a guy to like another guy or a girl to like another girl, it's just the way there life was intended to be. I'm not a gay or a lesbian, but I think it OK for somebody to one. I mean Rosie O'Donnell and Ellen DeGeneres are Lesbians but everybody still likes them and so is that guy from N'SNYC.
2006-08-28 15:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by tiara girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww it's toally ok dude.I would never criticize your lifestyle.I have some guy friends who are bi so I'm cool with it.Just talk to him allot more and see what happens accidentally touch his arm or leg gently and see his reaction.If your having intense moments I think you guys are probably meant for each other.See what happens thing should unfold.I think you guys should talk alot more then make your move see what happens.Srry if this advice isn't helpful what I'm saying is talk allot more and touch him on his arm just check his reaction to see.
2006-08-28 13:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a cliche, but if you want to get anywhere you have to be honest. If you like him enough to risk your friendship, tell him how you feel. If he's straight he'll probably run a mile, if he's not, you win. If you'd rather keep your friendship, there's nothing wrong with keeping quiet and looking elswhere.
Basically, you have to decide what's more important.
2006-08-28 13:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your right a guy playing soccer is hot! i would suggest spending more time with him like going to some of his games or somthing and maybe toching his arm. or maybe ask one of his friends if they think that he is gay, with out telling them that you want to know. you could also ask him if he knows any other gay guys that way you could talk to them, and then maybe he will suggest himself. good luck.
2006-08-30 13:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by spring goth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should like touch his hand or something and if he finds that weird than you might know if he is gay or not! Also i really think you should just go for it, tell him before its too late!!
Sorry if that sound a bit cheesy!!
2006-08-28 13:50:15 · answer #10 · answered by ciara-wilson 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Michael - how old are you - 13/14 or so. You are merely going through puberty when your hormones are playing havoc with not only your system, but also your head. Relax, you like your friend - that does not mean that you want to take him to bed. Men can have love for other men (best friends for instance) but it does not mean they are gay, or that sex has to be involved. In a year or two, at this rate, you will be calling yourself bi-sexual, but that will be because you don't know what you are. You will then find yourself a young lady with whom you will fall madly in love and have a family of three children, one of each...............
2006-08-28 13:17:41 · answer #11 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋