she wants this alot an she believes she can do it an be a mom.... she also thinks she is ready to have that family she has always dreamed about at a young age.. her boyfriend believes he wants an is ready for this too but she is not exactly sure... she wants to listen to her heart but people say to listen to your head... but this is a deep feeling
2006-08-28 06:00:35 · 19 answers · asked by whitney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she's too young- however, if both of them are committed to PROVIDING for their child and accepting ALL the responsibilities of being a parent, then they have a chance of being successful.
stranger things have happened.
2006-08-28 06:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a baby boy when I was 18, I was not planning of having any children until I was older but things happens. It is really hard for me and she is only 16 still in high school a baby needs you 24 hours a day it is a lot of responsibility and money a baby is a lot of money I spend maybe $300 or more a month on my child and her boyfriend might say that he might be ready too but a guy can leave at any moment he does not have to be there if he dont want to you had that child he can send a check every months if he wants it will be her life that is messed up because she was so young she was not really able to live her life so not yet she is not ready if anything wait till your out of high school!!
2006-08-28 13:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by onesexyg18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!
She is crazy to TRY and get pregnant at 16. She obviously has no idea what the reality of having a child is. Especially at such a young age. 16 is very young and can make it very hard to be a good parent. She is still in school, how can she work a full time job (because she will need to work a full time job to support a child) and go to school? Have you talked to her parents?
You must intervene here.
2006-08-28 13:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't entirely understand your question: is she already pregnant and debating whether to go through with the pregnancy, or is she thinking about becoming pregnant?
If its the second one (which I doubt), then it's not the wisest choice.
It the first, then she should go ahead and have the baby. It'll be tough, but in the end it's the right decision. And if she feels that she can't raise the child there are plenty of people looking to adopt.
2006-08-28 13:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she can afford to pay for diapers and baby formula now. She's such a child herself! You think it's easy to take care of a baby? It's a selfish thing to do if you can't even provide for a baby. Tell her if she really wants a baby, ask her to take care of someone else's baby for a week and see how she likes it. She's living in a fantasy. And that damn bf of hers is such a loser cause he just wants to have sex. She needs to at least have $500 a week just to support a baby. Oh and where is the bf gonna be at? Does he even have a job? How is he gonna support her and their baby? Do they even have a place to live? Don't even go asking to their parents for help.
2006-08-28 13:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is some sort of backwoods Jerry Springer mongoloid. I don't know how people like you (err her) exist in this day and age. What do you expect to hear, really? Go ahead and make babies while a sophomore in high school? Or, "oh you're not old enough yet". Christ! Seriously, what deranged drugs are you taking?
2006-08-28 13:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by surfinthedesert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to screw up her life. If her boyfriend loves her enough then he can wait and marry her after high school. I don't think that anybody should be having a child under the age of 21.
2006-08-28 13:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no!!!!!!!!baby's are a big responsibility and make look easy but it isnt. if possible advise her to take a child development class so she can learn more or even tell her to baby sit a baby for the weekend so she can see how much trouble it really is. having a baby is a big deal and should not be taken lightly
2006-08-28 14:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Almost a college grad!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not smart. She needs to wait to be a real parent, so she can provide for that child monetarily. It's not all about being a good, kind, happy parent, it's also about being to financially take care of that person.
2006-08-28 13:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,she is too young.cause after she has it,she probably won't have a good job to support her family because she didn't finish school.and unless her boyfriend REALLY loves her,i'm sure he's just saying that to get some.
2006-08-28 13:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LiL MiZ THANG ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋