we have been together 6 months ,should she keep it,she isn't sure? I have said to her that it is her ultimate decision but I would prefer to keep it. The biggest problem however is that she has been pushing me away ever since she found out. Like she wants me to break up with her.
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-28 05:52:38 · 18 answers · asked by Shane W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Maybe she feels like she needs to give you a way out, and if you are committed to her, then prove it. Stand by her. Go with her to doctor's appointments. Ask her how she's feeling and tell her you want to be with her and you are willing to help and be supportive in any way.
2006-08-28 05:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Naomi 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're right, ultimately it is her choice, but I would certainly express your feelings to her. Did she just not want to have kids? I'm just thinking she's really at that point where this may be the end of the line if she doesn't take this chance. Try asking her why she doesn't want the baby. Is it because she doesn't want the pregnancy? Or just doesn't want to raise a child? (Which some people don't and that's fine too) If that's the case, you could be willing to adopt / take custody I would think if you want to try to conquer it yourself. I definitly think sooner is better than later to start a serious discussion about the issue.
2006-08-28 06:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOk!!!I can see.Maybe she's very afraid and it's a shock since she didn't expect that.Tell her that u want to have a word in this but u trust her to do whatever she chooses.Abortion is not bad,but then at this age she may not have again the opportunity to have a baby.Tell her that if she doesn't want u to be together u can be there for you to help you in parenting coz U love her and u want the baby too.If she wants to break up, u can still be the father.Marriage is not a solution.But tell her to be serious coz you haven't stopped thinking about it and you deserve to know.Don't press her but show you care.She's scared for sure.
Good luck!
2006-08-28 06:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it your baby or someone else's? If it was someone else's, could she possibly be hanging onto hopes of getting back together with him?
Women are very emotional when pregnant. I can't speak for anyone else, but I know that when I was pregnant I was not emotionally stable enough to make any big decisions about a relationship.
She may be pushing you away cause she's worried that you say you want the baby now, but you may resent her later for "tying you down"!
2006-08-28 06:01:27 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her choice, do not try to push her into anything. Maybe she does not want a serious relationship or a child and you make her feel pressured. It may not be a bad idea to take 1-2 week off from each other and see where you go from there.
2006-08-28 06:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her, everything out in the open. If she even has a small doubt, then u should keep it. Far to many kids growing up in a unstable home. No need to add to that.
2006-08-28 06:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by a7xrios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the hardest desitions will have to make, if she's pushing you away, she may just need some time or space. Send her flowers and let her know you'll be there for her no matter what.
2006-08-28 06:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by mslorikaraoke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-28 02:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very nice to hear that you would like to keep your child. You should just show your gf that you would make a great family but If your girlfriend does not want to keep I would think that you have legal rights to this child once its born and is proven to be yours. But im not a lawyer so I could be wrong. goodluck....
2006-08-28 05:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by bravesfan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like they say abortion is wrong and she shouldn't do it. How would she felt if she found out that her mother wanted to abort her. Tell her that are behind her 100% but you really want her to consider keeping the baby... Oh and Congrats... Hopes she keep it
2006-08-28 05:59:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋