Why are other people so concerned when two people want to have a baby and they are not married?? I am 21 will be married in a few months and my fiance and I are trying to have a baby. But people like us should not be judged unitl you know our situation. I own my own home, own 2 brand new vehicles, am going to school and my fiance and I bring home about 90,000 a year. I only work a few months out of the year. My sister has 3 kids that I helped raise, so... I think I have plenty of time and plenty of practice and this is what my fiance and I want... so dont judge!
2006-08-28 05:45:04 · 10 answers · asked by ashleye114 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think that to some people a piece of paper actually gives them some kind of security. I don't know why, like I've said before and I'll keep on saying, a piece of paper is not gonna keep your husband/ wife by your side when they don't want to be there anymore. I mean I'm not saying don't get married, I'm just saying RELAX, have fun, enjoy your man/woman, make each other happy and give each other the best, see now that there no one could ever take and marriage, a divorce lawyer can.
2006-08-28 08:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean!! I hate that when people say that you have to be married to get pregnant, or you should be married before you have kids. It's just ridiculous!!! I'm 23, my fiance and I have been together for over 6 years and have lived together for over 5 years, I finished college over 3 years ago, own our house, and have 2 cars. We don't think that marriage is important at all, because marriage isn't always forever. We spend our money on other things that we need, rather then spend over $10,000 on a stupid wedding that might just end up in divorce anyway. Not saying that all relationships end up in divorce, but I think statistics prove that divorces are higher then marriages that last forever. I don't need the added stress in my life to worry about a stupid wedding. I just want to enjoy my life with my fiance, start a family and sooner or later we will hopefully get married. Don't let others tell you what to do, do what feels right to you!!!
2006-08-28 16:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by kittlesworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same with me... i was pregnant with my daughter at 20..yes i was engaged and got married when i was 5 month pregnant...I was in nursing school throughout my pregnancy and was even doing my rounds when my water broke! I only took 3 days out of school and was also working 35 hours a week and my husband was waorking full time as a mechanic although we didnt make 90,000 a year we do own our own home and have 2 cars but 1 is still being paid for...my daughter would always come first..she would eat and have diapers before i would have anything! I also had a cousin who had twins and triplets which i would look after...But from me to you good luck on concieveing and congrats on the wedding
2006-08-28 12:53:41 · answer #3 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simply it makes other people feel better if they believe other people are worse and have bigger problems than theirs. If two people want to raise a baby that's great. Any situation can be made to work as long as they're determined. Good luck with baby and marriage
2006-08-28 12:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by emily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't even know if you are going to actually get pregnant in the next few months, don't worry about it. You just may not want to have morning sickness during your wedding. I would wait til after the reason for that fact, I wish I could have drank on my wedding and stayed up late but I was pregnant and couldn't. and stop telling people they won't know the exact date you got pregnant, so what if you get pregnant like 1 month before the wedding, you won't even know it yourself!
2006-08-28 12:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By asking the questions it seems that you are judging yourself. The only persons approval you need is yourself. You should not care what other people are saying about you.... Now if only I can take my own advice.
2006-08-28 12:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you are having kids, and you aren't too young. And if you are getting married, it's not much of a difference if you are or not. I am happy for you.
2006-08-28 12:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooook then.... time to relax and tell yourself not to care what other people think. don't ask for anyone's approval. Like the old saying in Nike commercials.
JUST DO IT!!!
2006-08-28 12:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by gillamacs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love ur man enough to have sex w/him-just get married! then people will b off ur back, and u will be doing the right thing
2006-08-28 13:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by cammiechameleon1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off WHERE do u work cause i need to step my game up but i feel like u doing the right thing
2006-08-28 13:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by t t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋