i'm spending time with my mom right now-i get all nervous, agitated, and anxious and moody and stressed when i'm around her. She judges me and i know i'm not living up to her expectations. i can't even be my happy self around her. what can i do-i want to spend time with her cause she'll only be here for two days-i want to spend time-how can i shake these feelings?
2006-08-28 05:35:25 · 13 answers · asked by RACHAEL R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't buy into it
Whatever she says or does you know you are ok and if there is something you would like to change then work on it but do not buy into the guilt trip it is a lie
2006-08-28 05:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by tp3bop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell you mom, instead of telling total strangers here on the internet. Maybe she doesn't have any idea that you feel this way, and would try to do differently if only she knew. Most mothers don't want to make their child feel bad, so I am sure that if you could be mature enough to take this to her, then she would say to herself,"My girl is growing up. She came to me with something that was hard for her to talk about, but she DID." So, go to your mom. If she is gone by the time you get this, sit down and write her a NICE letter, and tell her, and then MAIL IT TO HER,
2006-08-28 05:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew sounds horrible. You'll just have to get through it I guess. Just take deep breathes, try not to let her behaviour effect you by being disconnected to the situation, focusing on other thoughts...like kind of be numb to it. Then when she goes I suggest burning sage throughout the house to get rid of her negative energy. Fill every vase with flowers when she's gone and listen to good upbeat music to get pass the ordeal.
2006-08-28 05:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem,and i am over 40 years old. I just Deal with it. If my mom starts doing or saying something that is not nice i remind her that i do not want to be angry with her the short time that she is visiting, and she needs to stop what ever she is doing that is nasty. She does!
good luck, and set rules for your mom, she may just follow them.
2006-08-28 05:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by I CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be who you are. You don't have to prove anything to anyone anymore. She should love you unconditionally. The hell with her expectations. What are your expectations of yourself and are you meeting your own expectations?????? If so. Don't worry, be happy, cause happiness is internal not external. Internal never leaves. External always sheds.
2006-08-28 05:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Shorty by Nature 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is for 2 days. u cant handle your mom for 2 days. u sound really impossible. u must put yourself in your moms shoes and see how u will feel. try learning to love and appreciate your mother. is only one mother u will ever have.
2006-08-28 05:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by precioustt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize this ONE very important FACT! She will NOT be around forever... My mom died in 01 and we had an amazing relationship that I wouldnt trade for ANYTHING... So try and loosen up a bit... If she nags you, just let it go. She's your ONLY mom.
2006-08-28 05:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and discuss this issue you are having with your mother. Why hide what you are feeling and make yourself miserable? Who better to talk to than your mother. Do it and I am certain that you will be happier.
2006-08-28 05:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open the conversation. Ask if she feels nervous around you....that should do it. Obviously, she likes being with you. You need to discuss this with her.
2006-08-28 05:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by kihteacher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it easier to get along with other people's moms, not ours. But we miss our's the most when they are gone!
2006-08-29 10:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋