My sex life with my husband really sucks....but we get along well in just about every other way. I've kind of gotten used to it...but wonder if this marriage can last without any passion? Married 5 years.....age 40.
2006-08-28 05:15:30 · 27 answers · asked by Me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are asking this question, then it's a bad sign. I think it means you've been missing out on something that you need. Sex isn't everything, and some couples might be mutually happy with not much sex, but if you are missing it, then you should talk to him about it. I'll bet that he might be open to trying some new things. If you have a good relationship as far as communication goes, then you should just talk about it. From my personal perspective, my marriage is really enhanced by our sexual relationship. But my husband and I are on the same page. If you can get on the same page with your spouse, I think it will be well worth it for both of you.
2006-08-28 05:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does not make a good relationship, but lack of it can certainly be a deterrent... If things are perfect in every other way, maybe you should pay a visit to your local adult toy store... purchase some toys for yourself...and ask the clerk about the best pill that you can crush and put into his mashed potatoes or beverage to make him want to make passionate love to you. They can be a bit pricey, but well worth it!
Another option is to have a frank discussion with your husband and discuss your options... Maybe bringing a third person into the bedroom will spice things up a bit?
If all else fails, divorce may be the only option...Find a man that knows what a woman needs and will give it to her.
2006-08-28 05:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my husband for just over 5 yrs we've been married 4 yrs ~ the passion went out of our marriage..and the sex stopped! After our last son was born almost 3 yrs ago...I had my tube tied and now our sex life...is great...NOT the GREATEST but it's more frequently and he's always making the advances...If you're questioning whether your marriage can last without passion...if you mean with out great sex....maybe you should seek counciling... or talk to him about trying something NEW..spice it up a bit...
2006-08-28 05:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to try hypnosis...and you should definitely try counseling. I know that medications can make you unable to have sex because of no sex drive..it's not your fault...that's a horrible side effect of some meds. Do you guys "play" with each other? Perhaps some stimulation (either self or with him) will get you more in the mood and able to enjoy each other. I feel for you and your husband. Ask your doctor if there's anything you can do. I wish you both the best.
2016-03-26 22:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather people will admit it or not, sex is a huge part of a relationship, especially when you're married or living together. Can you do something to help him out? Toys, books, tapes, games? The sex being bad is eventually gonna slip into the other parts of your life and cause problems there too. Your gonna get frustrated and start nonsense arguments just to vent. I could lead to you finding someone else to pleasure you. I don't think it will last, but that's up to you and rather or not you can handle being unpleased. Good Luck!
2006-08-28 05:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by geminiblue26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Passion is key to a good marriage and that includes sex. Visit a counselor for help.
2006-08-28 05:27:27 · answer #6 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!Try Try Try!!Add some spice if that's what you are looking for.Try movies,toys different locations lingerie lovers board games.The possibilities are endless.If there's no passion,make some.The most important thing about finding a life long partner is being with your best friend.If you have that,you have the world!!
2006-08-28 05:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by jayne s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can if you will let it maybe you could consider reading up on it or practicing to make better or talking about it to see what can be changed I don't think sex is the most important thing for sure but I think its is important I think that if you both are willing to work on this then it can work and will if you choose to make it I know that there are all kinds of books out there and toys and things as such to help
2006-08-28 05:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your concerns in how you want it to change. He is probably feeling the same way that you are. There is more to a marriage than sex but you both have to achieve what you want together.
2006-08-28 05:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad sex CAN be fixed and if you two get along well in all other areas, I would concentrate on making the sex fabulous. You didnt get into detail on why its bad (is he bad? are you bad? no creativity? no sex drive?) whatever the problem it can be fixed and you should work on it. Use books, medication, movies, a therapist that specializes in it..do whatever you have to.
2006-08-28 05:22:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋