i've been with this guy for a year now . he is from the same country,middle eastern. we want to get married, i have been introduced to his family, and they are very nice. except for the dad he doesnt want to apporve his marriage. the guy is old enough to make a decison, he is in his midd 30. but without his dad blessing he cant do any thing,because it will be not respectfull for me and my family. and religous wise he cant make his dad mad at him . i told him i would talk to your father , he refused, because it would seem that we have slepts toghther and we didnt . i dont want to keep going like this without knowing the end of itl. what should i do?
2006-08-28 05:12:47 · 11 answers · asked by nataly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh, the reason the dad doesnt wanna bless the marriage is because my man was married a year a go and got divorce , so he doesnt want him to get married again his way , he want to arrange it for him . he has nothing against me as far as i know.
2006-08-28 07:14:02 · update #1
Religion and tradition can get in the way of a lot of things. If he refuses to give his blessing and your guy won't marry you without it, time to give up and move on. Try to convince your guy to marry u anyways, with or w/o the blessing, and hopefully the dad will come around. That's a hard question.
2006-08-28 05:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like youve answered your own question. His dad doesnt approve of you and he wont go against his father.
There is nothing you can do to make his father change his mind. Sounds like you need to move on...
2006-08-28 05:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why dad refuses to bless you two. If its something you can work on, give it time. If its something else... and he WONT marry you till dad blesses it... ITs time to move on.
2006-08-28 05:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's old enough to make a decision on his own he doesn't really need his dad permit since he's on 30's ,yeah he must respect his dad but he must think his own happiness also....his dad must know that his son is not a 3 year old boy anymore that need his permission and he can control his son...,and if he really love you whoever against with your realationship he gonna fight for that love....
2006-08-28 05:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to tell you what to do because we dont know what your middle eastern culture says about that.
besides, you didnt tell us why he wont bless you, tell us why, is it because you have had 20 husbands in the past, or because you are not pretty enough or what?
2006-08-28 05:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Fowl Language 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and get your boyfriend to understand the depth of the relationship and let him know you 2 are grown and all you need is his blessing. maybe you should just try and convince your boyfriend to let you speak to his father privately since he refused you should just do what you feel is right to get his approval.
2006-08-28 05:18:07 · answer #6 · answered by Marty Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id cultural differences cannot bve resolved, you may have to move on with your life, or get married and have eternal turmoil between you and his family.
2006-08-28 05:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 02:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by lashbrook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another man.
Tell him why.... Your boyfriend has deep seeded problems with his family and you don't want to get hitched in this kind of situation. tell him hou you feel. If he loves you he will take action. If not forget it babe.
2006-08-28 05:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by jeffrey k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to respect fiances wishes to not speak to his father, but if this persisit, you need to walk away from situation.
2006-08-28 05:21:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋