I had my plane ticket and a ride. I was going to leave this state and go back home, away from my bf (not working ). Well at the last minute, I cancelled and I am sitting at my desk at work. I cant believe this, why did I do this? I just want to go home, should I just pick up and leave tomorrow, I'm gonna have to rent and all the bills again if I dont....My bf just wont do anything but drink. When I left, it was so emotional, I get along great with him, but once into the routine, he just doesnt work, clean, he attacks he once in a while, its crazy. Anyways should I just get on a plane tomorrow and leave? Or go with these emotions and stay put and give him some more time?
2006-08-28 04:50:33 · 13 answers · asked by ms.mary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
!!!LEAVE!!! I can't believe you need help with this...GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THIS LOSER! You don't need help to be miserable, you can be miserable by yourself. You'll probably do much better as soon as you dump this guy.
Don't depend on other people for your happiness. It just doesn't work that way...TRUST ME!
2006-08-28 05:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl just do it. Think about your life with him if you get saddled with children. Is that a life you want to bring them into? No! children deserve better than that.
Once you physically get away from him you will feel much better. It is all psychological. Once you leave him contact a battered womans shelter. Maybe you arent the most severe case but you will definately need some help. I would say that you are nervous because you are uncertain of the future. But things have a way of working themselves out when you do something to better yourself. You have already made the first step in deciding to not stay with him...why prolong it?
2006-08-28 05:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on the plane and don't look back. Of course you are going to be emotional...you were in a relationship and feelings were involved. This is one of those instances where it is better to cut your losses now and learn from what has happened.
There will be other relationships, but you need to work on yourself and find where you are going, THEN find someone who is on the same (or similar) as you.
2006-08-28 04:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more time you put in the harder it is to leave. Go for it get on the plane and go back home. It can't be any worse then what it is right now.
2006-08-28 04:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can tell you what i would do if i were you and i had already purchased a ticket i would go ahead and use it and GO HOME nasty guys are going to be nasty forever i had to learn that the hard way
i am not sure what YOU should do .. i can not TELL you what to do .. but it seems you already made a choice just wanted to put it off for a little while
i hope things work out well for you in the end :)
2006-08-28 04:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but he won't change regardless of how much time you give him. Your first instints were right and go home. You will not be happy if you stay. They'll just make it more hard to leave in the future. Do it while you can.
2006-08-28 05:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get on a plane tomorrow and leave, you will be so much happier. if he has all this negative stuff about him why put up with it when you could leave? think for yourself and what will make YOU happy.
2006-08-28 04:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there! You'll feel better once you're away from his drama and in the comfort of home and family. Life is what you make it, by staying with that asshat you're making a mess out of your life. Don't try and work it out with him, he won't change.
2006-08-28 04:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Alan J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first, tell him what you want. If you he don't like it then its much better to leave him. A good communication is a good sign of relationship.
2006-08-28 04:59:24 · answer #9 · answered by rhanz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out this movie... Guess Who... with ashton k.
if you like him... you will get him to feel the pain of you leaving him...
in my own experiences, you dont' ever date someone who has a problem and refuses to help themselves... b/c if they aren't even trying, they are looking for you to do it all... you call them BUMS...don't let him treat you like he owns you....
if i were you I WOULD LEAVE... life is way too short for you to feel unhappy and unloved.... dont' give him more time... the more time you give the less time you have for yourself....
TRUST ME PLEASE... LEAVE HIM.....GET ON THE PLANE
2006-08-28 04:58:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋