Why do so many girls from 15-23 who are unwed and uneducated want to have babies so badly? It angers me to read these questions on answers... It's no picnic, no walk in the park and no prom!!! .... Having a newborn is harder than any job I have ever had in my life. Mine was born with an illness that he will grow out of, which made it even harder on my husband and I.
2006-08-28 04:46:45 · 17 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I think they feel that something is missing from their lives. They feel that having a baby will fill that need, not realizing that it will not solve their problems but just add to them.
2006-08-28 04:50:29 · answer #1 · answered by missy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Childern of today arent raised the same way that they were years ago. These days parents often have to return to work early in order to keep money flowing to afford the lifestyles that they need to keep their children happy and healthy. Not only that but the idea of 'family time' seems to have quite diminished from today's society. We're often too busy and too much in a rush.
Without the quality time that parents can spend with their children most kids are often raised without the same sense of responsibility that they once were. They're raised with an understanding that isn't complete of the world.
Some teenagers who long for a child do so because they think that is the only way that they will ever have someone who will love them completely. They don't see the big picture... they only see how green the grass is on the other side.
Without the proper parenting from their own parents they, kids of today, often grow up less assured, less confident and feeling perhaps a little less 'belonging' to someone/something more in their life.
What's more... some lessons have to be learned the hard way unfortunately. Without some kind of intervention we'll only continue seeing more of this kind of trend continue.
2006-08-28 11:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kristain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they had a bad childhood and want something to love the way they haven't been...sad but true...but alot of women that want babies aren't unwed or uneducated..even if they are unwed and in their early 20's, doesn't make them bad people...I'm unwed and have 1 daughter and another on the way...I'm 31 now...and I don't think that's really a factor to consider when having a child..It's how stable the environment is for the baby, emotionally and financially. And yes, its no picnic having children!!!
2006-08-28 11:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone see's it the same way you do.....I had my first when I was 16....she is 7 now...I had my second child when I was 20....And I am pregnant with my third now, he's due October 27th. I'm married...All my kids have the same Daddy....We have been together for 8 years and married for 7 years.....
I don't feel like I missed out on anything.....I dropped out of school before I even got pregnant.....We were married before we had our first child.....
I would not change anything in my past...I love my children very much....My kids started school today 1st grade and pre-school.....I cried because I like having my children at home, I miss them terribly...it is too quiet til 4:00.
Just because someone is young and has a baby, doesn't mean they feel the same as you...
My 4 year old has a illness to.......He has a cyst inside his brain, bad vision, he has had eye surgery, He has fever seizures, and suffers from anxiety attacks, And water around the brain....
Children with medical problems are not a burden.....I love my son and wouldn't change anything about him. If I knew all of that when I was pregnant with him I would still have him....I don't even half to think twice...
To answer your question......My children are a PICNIC....they are a walk in the PARK.....and they are my PROM...
2006-08-28 12:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by sane_nut 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some think that having a baby will help them or guide them in life. It's like having a purpose. Some think that having a baby is a sign that they can hold their man in their lives. Some even think that having a kid even without a father to support them is a blessing because they have someone to take care of and they will no longer be alone when they grow old. Some think that having a kid is just a blessing...it depends on the person. Some have theirs by accident - whatever it is, it is better that they continue their pregnancy than resulting to abortion.
2006-08-28 12:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by my 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of my friends in high school got pregnant, I chose to wait. I was 24 when I had my daughter, and I'm 26 now due in Jan with our 2nd. I don't think that having a child will fix anyone's problems or relationships, BUT I don't agree with others making judgements on someone's life whom you know nothing about. My friends have made mistakes and misjudged relationships just like you and me. They are good mothers, and regardless of their education, they do their best for their kids. Just like you or I. I think "to each his own"... you can't tell someone else that they aren't ready to have a child, unless of course they are YOUR CHILD!
My husband and I plan on having a couple more, and that has interrupted my finishing college, but "Motherhood" is the ultimate education! I can do more for the world by honoring my God, and my husband, and being the best Christian-Mom I know how to be.
2006-08-28 13:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of 1.5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I'm twenty, and can't wait to have children. I know it will be hard, but its something I've always wanted. I know to wait until I'm ready though, and until I'm financially stable and married.
I think its wrong too, when someone only wants a baby so someone will love them back. In ways, thats a form of abuse, because the baby needs love too... its only a small being, and wouldn't beable to give the love people expect to them right off the bat because they are still learning. I think its selfish. (Just had to add that for those who think this.)
2006-08-28 11:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by katith1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They lack love from parents and family so they look to fill that void by having children of their own. I think many girls think that if they have a baby their dead-beat boyfriends will somehow magically love them and become suddenly devoted to them. It's sad really.
2006-08-28 11:50:58 · answer #8 · answered by East of Eden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To fill a void, but they forget for the next 18 years it is no picnic
2006-08-28 11:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by Michael 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they always think that if they have a baby the guy will stick with them forever. But that is retarted for girls to even think that way. I hope things work out for you.
2006-08-28 11:53:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jolie' 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋