My girlfriend has pictures of her ex in her closet... Her ex is now her friend and they don't talk very much... but I am very jealous of the other ex girlfriend... I don't know why...? My girlfriend was so in love with her and I am not sure she feels the same way about me and it kinda' hurts my feelings a little...
i saw them this morning when she was getting dressed for work... i asked her and she told me that they where no big deal she was just putting her back in the closet where she belongs... but she has her pic all over and what makes me jealouse is i just dont feel like she is as into me as she was her ex or as much as i am her
2006-08-28 04:39:19 · 4 answers · asked by notsurewhoiam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why would you choose to focus so much energy on your girlfriends ex, when clearly she isn't? The fact that she still has pictures of her ex means absolutely nothing, except for the fact that her ex was once a part of her life, and as such, she has pictures to keep as a memory of the times they shared together. It's really no different than any other relationship, and even without the pictures themselves, you certainly couldn't wipe away the memories she keeps more private within her own mind.
If you were to force the issue with her, it's difficult to say how she might react. I know when I was confronted with a similar thing a while back by my now ex-wife, I was upset that she was offended by this since the pictures were not being displayed, but were kept tucked away. Again, in my own scenario, they were kept as a memory from my past - and not with future intentions attached.
Focus more on the relationship you share with her today, and build your own memories together - take pictures together. Enjoy life together, and let the past be what it is... the past. Good luck!
2006-08-28 04:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel! My ex-boyfriend kept all the pics of his ex's in his wallet when we were together! I think it is bs. I can see saving them just for memories to have one day when you are old and looking back, but she should pack them in storage or something or throw them away! Try to approach her in a non-confrontational way and let her know that it bothers you and ask her if she could pack them up out of view! They probably are not a big deal and mean nothing, but it would bother me too! Good luck!
2006-08-28 04:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by johnhaleyb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a friend who keeps pictures of her ex even though she hates him. And her ex used to have pics of his ex-es and she used to get jelous because he has those photos. But I don't think she loves you less because she has them. They are more of a memorabilia kind of thing or a journal that she wants to remember who was in her life. I don't think oyu should worry about the photographs specifically.
2006-08-28 04:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put pictures all around of your ex.... Then sit and gaze at them when you know she is around... Maybe this will fix or force the issue....
2006-08-28 04:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by PoolRoomPaintings.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋