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Question

ok so i had a best friend in 8th grade lets say her name was ( mary) and then when we went to high school we sort of stopped being friends because we did not have any classes together, different friends, different things, jobs, families and all.... any way then in 10th grade i found out that she went to paris to live with her dad with out even telling me.....ok well i pretended i did not care i mean we werent that good friends anyway.... then in the summer of 10th grade my friend ( catty) saw her in this book store and i was hurt, we were bestest friend in 8th grade, people used to call us twins. and she did not even bother saying hi when she came down here...... Any way its best for me to pretend not to care cuz then i sort of just forget about it on top of my mind.... call me crazy! now i am in 12th grade and i have been having weird dreams....What should i do? am i wrong to be mad at her?

i can't contect her because she did not leave me her phone num or email address.....but i kno she has mine because (CAtty) told me she gave her mine

Answer 1

have a kleenx

Answer 2

Move on. Forget about her. She was only your friend in 8th grade so she could have a friend. If she was your real friend, she would call you no matter how far apart you guys lived frome each other. Trust me. Let her go. I know the saying is old- but there are a lot more fish in the sea. And about your weird dreams-no, you are not wrong to be mad at her, since she was fake, but you should focus your mind on better, more positive things, like college, a boyfriend, a home for yourself in the future.... etc.

Hope this helps :)

Answer 3

I have had that happen before, I just think that everyone goes through stages in life that change a person. My friends got married and they just forgot that all the friends where around but I also understand that some husbands do not want them to stay in contact with friends. So that is that now we come across each other at the mall or at the supermarket and we are like complete strangers, not even a "Hi" but I guess your true friends will still be in contact with you, if not they were really never your friend. Or maybe she thinks she is all that and you do not need someone like her.

Answer 4

It's OK to be angry with her but don't let it get to you. If that's the way she is going to treat you, she probably wasn't that good of a friend to begin with. I don't get the connection with the dreams. Do the dreams involve her? If not, they're being triggered by other things. If they are, then you probably have to get this off your chest before you can move on. If you get a chance to tell her how you feel it might alleviate the dreams but the cause isn't necessarily due to her.
Have a great day!!!

And you wrote call you crazy.... I'm against it but if that's what you want... OK..... you're crazy! lol

Answer 5

Nope, I don't think you need to be mad at her or at your self. I think she never seen' you as her mutual friend anyway. I think she probably felt differently about you being her friend than you have felt. Perhaps you have never discussed this problem of being friends. I would not be bothered by it. Unless, you really want to know than go to your friend , considering if you know where she lives and ask her for some time that you would like to ask her something that's been bothering you. Perhaps that would clearfify the situation. Hope this helps! Sincerely Angelika

Answer 6

People change. People grow and mature at different rates and at different times. Maybe, just maybe perhaps your friend from the 8th grade, remember, this was 4 years ago, matured in a differnt way than you did. Just be glad for the good times that you and your friend had together. You have good memories of her. Why pollute them with bad feelings today. In a couple of more years, she willl just be another one of those people whom you met, and then moved on.

Answer 7

You were friends in 8th grade...Sorry but it sounds like not a big deal! But if you care about her and want to continue with your friendship you should just ask her what was the problem,because it seems like she got mad about something!

Answer 8

You need to embrace your anger over this really feel it then do your best to forgive and to forget. The dreams are your subconscous way to deal with the anger and the pain. Once you let yourself really feel it then you can dismiss it and go on with your life. Emotions left un dealt with will cause you more and more issues, feel them and get past them.

Answer 9

Hey.... Life is too short to let all that run around in your brain... Contact her and let he know you miss the friendship and appologize for not acknowledging her in the book store. It really doesn't matter who starts the conversation just do it... Good Luck

Answer 10

You drifted apart...because of life...but that doesn't mean that she doesn't care for you...and it is obvious that you care cause you are hurt...why don't you try calling her or emailing her...you might find out that she too was hurt from your distance...

Try to contact her...i am sure both of you will be close friends again...

Answer 11

its normal to be angry, but i feel that the best thing to do is tell yourself that she is doing what she has to do in order to be happy, and leave it at that. i completely understand where you're coming from. i live in CA. i had a best friend who i met in kindergarten, and we were best friends all the way up to freshman year in high school, 11 years. one day, i called his house to invite him over for the weekend, and his mom answered and said, oh he didn't tell you? he moved to michigan. well, needless to say i was angry at first, then tried to get in contact w/him through his mom, and when he didn't return my calls, i accepted that he felt he needed me out of his life, and if that's what he needed to be happy, i was content with that, if not happy. its a tough situation, but time heals all pains. im sorry for your situation, and i hope my answer helps you.