2006-08-28 04:31:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are several ways to accomedate your daughter and grandchildren while maintaining your sanity.
1) Define your space: Set aside a room in your apartment (most likely your bedroom) that is only for you, and off limits to everyone else. This gives you space and a retreat if you become overwhelmed.
2) Kids can/should be playing outside: Kids need to yell and carry on as part of their development, however; you don't need to be in the middle of it. Most apartment complexs have a playground, or maybe your local neighborhood has one they could go to when especially active.
3) Draw up clear rules and consquences for everyone, including your daughter, make sure she understands that you are doing her a great service and you do not owe it to her.
2006-08-28 04:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by magerious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering she had to move back home would mean she's having financial difficulties and this would bar her from living on her own. You could set a time frame for her and stick to it no matter how hard it is. Tell her I love you and the kids but I've raised my children and it's time for me to sit back and enjoy my life for me. I understand your having a difficult time right now but I'll work with you anyway I can. But your going to have to get on your own two feet. By getting a job (providing she doesn't already have one) and finding your own place. And say I'm going to give you x amount of time (ex. 2 months) make it reasonable and obtainable. Or one day while your out with her drive by a neighborhood with children playing outside show her and say "it would be great if you lived here so the kids could make some friends"...
It isn't good for children to be cooped up in a small apartment. Until she does that tell her that once or twice a week your going to have her take the kids out somewhere just so you can relax and keep your sanity. Make her take them to a movie, or to the park for at least an hour and treat yourself to a nap, bubble bath, etc.
2006-08-28 04:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-05 23:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry I know that is a hard thing for you as a mother to go thro. I think you should find our if they can move to say public housing or a place with lower rent so you can get things back to normal. theira re places to help people who are low income.or income based apartments.
2006-08-28 04:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to communicate, say things as soon as they start bothering you, don't let it build up. Develop a routine that EVERYONE has to be involved in, maybe charts so everyone is on the same page? organization is key to keeping the place in one piece and everyone has to assume responsibility for there own space and mess
2006-08-28 04:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Jep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard because she is your daughter. I would help her get her act togather, worse come to worse i would move out and find another place, Usually the kids stay for the generation.
2006-08-28 04:35:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her she needs to get her own place, you will help her look and support her in any way, but that she needs to get her own place, that you are feeling like you're losing your marbles and you need your place back. Be honest with her, if she's adult enough to have kids she's adult enough to hear the truth
2006-08-28 04:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make life at the appartment living hell. Seriously, like walk around in your underwear.. leave **** out everywhere.
Be a total dick.
She'll hurry to find somewhere else to live. AND you get to be a dick!!! 2 birds, one stone.
2006-08-28 04:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew the answer to that, my brother and his wife and two kids moved in with me, and I can't kick them out and at the same time can't live with them, its crazy.
2006-08-28 04:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, charge her some rent and hire a baby sitter you know well to watch over things while you go out and drink and get laid.
2006-08-28 04:34:39 · answer #10 · answered by Hymn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋