well were 18 trs. old and we have a baby,but since i work a lot there are days i just sleep, then i really don't want to get dressed or go out then my wife found these girls numbers in my cell. they were nobody ,but she flipped, i honestly only love her and want her old self again, were seperated. just like what happens in the movie CLICK , but she said she doesn't want to try anymore, because i'm not going to change, but i have!
2006-08-28 04:21:15 · 14 answers · asked by puteis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give her time & she'll see you've changed, if that's really what happened. The easiest way is to say 'I don't wanna try anymore' but it's not wise at all, esp. that you have a baby & you say you love her. Try to show her more affection & attention, go out more often even if you are tired, women appreciates attention! Everything should be fine, just get up from a couch and be inovative to make her fall for you again cause she fell in love with a nice guy, didn't she? So keep that old style towards her! Good luck!
2006-08-28 04:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, if the numbers were nothing then what did you change? Are you refering to the staying in bed/sleeping thing, you will just have to prove it to her. But seeing that you are both only 18 maybe a marriage wasn't a good idea. Maybe she is just not ready? Counseling is a great idea, it gives both of you an outside/uninvolved person to talk to. Sometimes people get so wrapped up in trying to win the arguement that the real issues are lost and a counselor can help sort it all out.
2006-08-28 04:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have girls numbers on your cell that means nothing. If they meant nothing the numbers would not have been on your cell phone. We all work hard including your wife. Wouldn't we all like to sleep and do nothing but that is not the way it is.
Seems you dint get it and your wife sees that. I don't think it was just the girls numbers she found. I think it was all of it together. The phone numbers just gave her a good enough reason to say good bye.
2006-08-28 04:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that a trust betrayed could no longer easily regained. However, as a man you can still regain ur wife's trust by turning around from that conduct that makes her distrust you. Also, you still need to let her know that you still value her and your relationship as husband and wife by presenting to her some of those gifts that you showered her during dating period when you wanted to wooh her to yourself.
Once in a while, express your feelings about her like: You are so wonderful, everything abouth u is fantastic, thanks 4 being there 4 me e.t.c.
2006-08-28 04:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by signorina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like shes using the numbers on your cell as an excuse to leave the marriage. No one in thier right mind leaves a marriage simply because she found phone numbers on her mans cell.
2006-08-28 04:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take time to clean up around you like deleting those numbers from your phone, etc...... Trust is very hard to earn again. If she does give you a 2nd chance you better do the best you can to keep it.
2006-08-28 04:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to prove to her that you have changed. Get up and go do something with her.Surprise her with a box of candy. Take a day off and go pick her up and take her on a special date. Dude if you love her, show her.
2006-08-28 04:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go.
Let her find the love she deserves under her definition of what love is.
She wants all or nothing. Most of us do.
Let her go.
Maybe she already found what she's looking for.
Let her have the chance to be loved as she sees fit.
You too can love again.
2006-08-28 04:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change takes time it don't happen over night.Give her time to get herself together and you should do the same. If it's meant to be you all will work things out.Take time to heal and get your life right vs.Good luck
2006-08-28 04:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time and understanding... It's hard to trust someone again.
2006-08-28 04:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋