there is no economic or moral/religious pressure on most people in the uk today. so why do they want to make a legal/financial committment to each other which will cost them thousands to get into and thousands to get out of?
2006-08-28 04:20:12 · 19 answers · asked by ellen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes it is nice that you can share the same last name with your children. If you are not married what will their last name be and how do you explain why its not your last name or his. That's only one of the things, there are many more but I actually think it is a silly question. Just don't get married if you don't believe in it. Just like many other things, there is no great reason for it but we just enjoy doing it or celebrating it.
2006-08-28 04:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sense of security - not just now but for the spouse and the any children should anything terrible happen to you.
If it's costing thousands to get into then you've got the meaning of the actual wedding itself all wrong - it's the act of uniting in marriage that counts and if that means spending thousands, then it implies that the pomp and circumstance is of more importance than the actual act of committing to each other for the rest of your lives. You can get married very cheaply and still live happily ever after. Sometimes the debt caused with a wedding can itelf be a huge source of trouble within the marriage!Strange but true...
I am in my 2nd marriage and neither wedding could have been more different. I didn't get married the 1st time thinking it would do for a bit. I was devastated when it ended, but I went on to find "Mr Right" and life just can't get any better being the wife of the right person. It is different to being a partner and I defy anyone to say there's not a shift in the relationship with being married.
Plus - you could just call me old fashioned!
2006-09-01 08:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you assume it will cost people thousands to get into? It doesn't have to. Yes, it can cost thousands to get out of, but not through careful planning on both sides, which sounds a bit cold and clinical but necessary in today's world.
There are still alot of people who do feel moral and religious pressure to get married, so why shouldn't they? And similarly if people don't want to get married and prefer to just live with one another, then nothing wrong with that either.
When I got married, I truly believed that it would be forever, sadly it was not. I don't regret it... would I do it again? Maybe, maybe not. I don't know.
There is something intimate about a marriage between man and woman and if you haven't been married, then you wouldn't possibly understand this feeling.
2006-08-28 11:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think because of wedding ceremony and the right of wearing that nice diamond ring around her finger. all women want to feel like a princess once in her life. i personally am agree with u completely - why would u waste so much money to entertain some people half of whom u even have never seen and most probably will never see again? wouldn't it be more wise to buy nice nice versace dress and go on a fancy trip to some fancy island? but again, i have been once married and had wedding ceremony, so basically i can't judge .
but when i married second time i didn't want any ceremony. and i married officially because he gets very high salary and after his death i will get as a pension 60% of his salary. this was the only reason we got officially married, otherwise i would have been perfectly happy just living with him
2006-08-28 12:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married because we want to spend the rest of our lives together. Four years on we still do. Why marry and not just live together? Because when you get married you are making a public declaration of your commitment to and love for one another. You are doing this because you believe it should be celebrated and shared, and you are also openly inviting your friends and family to support you in that marriage. A marriage takes work, but it is well worth it.
2006-08-28 11:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jaydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married you make a commitment to love and cherish each other for life marriage is a very sacred thing it's special.
You can live with any one even a boyfriend and just split up and leave but with a marriage you are more likely to work at it marriage is for life.
2006-08-29 17:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was married once and married too young at 24. That young i know it was all the big dream of been married and having your own home etc, after all that it wasn´t the dream and he wasn´t my true love. Now i have found my true love i want to marry him someday and we have said we will, but i want it to be special for us both with only the two of us and 2 witnesses on our beach at sunset with the sea very calm. It´s all about how you feel about that person that counts, not about taking his surname, i can´t cause he is spanish. I think it is something that you have to consider carefully first and feel the love between you both and then you and only you will know what is the right thing to do.
2006-08-28 17:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by caroline anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all marriages end. My first did, but then I married for the wrong reasons. I believe I've found my one and only true love now, and when I marry, it'll be for all the right reasons. If you marry for the right reasons, it's to show you committing your complete life to your partner for as long as you live. People that can't grasp that concept shouldn't get married in the first place. Those that generally don't work, never REALLY wanted to get married in the first place (I speak from experience), and felt they had to, to keep their partner.
2006-08-28 11:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by ragill_s1849 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a statement to community, that says you vow to honor your mate forever...before my husband and I were married we lived together, we loved each other very much but there were always power struggles and insecurities. I realized one day that really if we got married the feeling of being unsure would disappear. We got married, I believe he really loves me for doing that and now we are not tempted to argue with " fine I'll just leave then!" Yes we were immature when we used to say those things but maybe that's also part of my point..marriage is for mature love.
2006-08-28 12:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by someone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has something to do with culture, religion, and the fact that when you live together anyone could walk away from the relationship at any moment, which hinders a sense of stability and emotional security in the relationship, it particularly seems unstable for bringing children into the picture.
2006-08-28 11:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋