She usually gets her way because she asks and asks and asks until i am so wore out that I just give in. This has gone on for quite some time now, and I have mentioned it to her. She doesn't see it. How long should I endure this and what can I do to change this aspect in her?
2006-08-28 04:15:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know. I tried living with a nagging husband, but couldn't do it.
tell her to quit. if she doesn't then she's disrepecting you as her husband.
tell her that she can't always have her way and don't let her have her way. leave her if necessary.
2006-08-28 08:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She asks and asks for what? How is that nagging? Is she unreasonable? (or wanting you to take out the trash?) Spoiled? That would be a different question. But if she does nag, it's because she doesn't feel like you hear her -- after awhille her voice is immediately like a mother asking a child to pick up dirty socks for the ump-teenth time. It's a reflex when you live with someone who consistently disregards what you say, or throws back whatever point you try to make. Blame shifts, etc. Soon everytime you open your mouth it's got the necessary tone to insure a RESPONSE. No other way she speaks would likely warrent a reaction from you -- honestly think about it.
2006-08-28 11:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really, this is a lot of things that you'll find in a lot of parenting books in dealing with children, but the she's not your child, she's your wife, she's supposed to be your equal partner. So my question is, why is your relationship such that she needs permission from you?
You both need to agree on some boundries together. This will show how you respect her, and how you have faith in her that she is capable of disciplining her self. I think you'll be surprised how a woman often becomes exactly what you expect her to be. It's time to stop expecting her to be like a child, and start expecting her to be the adult, woman that she is. If she starts asking permission again, just remind her that you agreed on these things together, and that she needs to stop asking for your permission, she knows what's right, and needs to take responsibility and act accordingly.
2006-08-28 11:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand strong~it's not just her way or the highway! I would do something drastic enough to get her attention that she realizes hey, maybe I do have a good guy that treats me well. Such as maybe one night just go and do what you want and if she confronts you on why~ tell her that you have had it you can't constantly do what she want's you have needs as well. How long to put up with it~I guess life's to short to be unhappy try being firm and be strong for what you want and if it does not work look into other options!
Good Luck
2006-08-28 11:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can live with a nagging wife very easily:
1. get some ear plugs
2. nag louder than her
3. give her more attention
4. learn to compromise
5. counseling
6. take her on a vacation
7. communicate constantly
8. dont ever let her see you sweat
2006-08-28 13:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you first hand i nag my husband about stuff and you know what he does.. NO!!!! and keeps it at no there is no giving in.. she will walk all over you for as long as she wants because you give in... if you love your wife then you need to stand up and stick to ur guns.. it is going to be hard at first but believe me it will all work out in the end. i never seen that i was nagging my husband either but at my wedding after the reception at our house i nagged him about something and it was on video. then i seen what i was doing.. i no longer nag him. because he never gave in to me.
2006-08-28 11:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have boundaries. You need to say to her; "I'm sorry, but it isn't going to work this time, because I am not giving in." If you continue to nag me, then I am going to leave the room." The key is setting those boundaries.
2006-08-28 11:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try marriage counseling.
Or talk to her about why she nags. If it is because she is doing the lion's share of work around the house and needs you to pitch in, why don't you try doing some housework BEFORE she has to ask you.
2006-08-28 11:38:04 · answer #8 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either choose to go to counseling, or leave her....I am a woman, and I couldn't stand living with someone like that. I have a friend that is the same way........I feel for her husband....I don't know how he stands it......He and I have even talked about it....but he loves her....beats me.....Good luck
2006-08-28 11:19:42 · answer #9 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got yourself a serious dilemma.You have to learn to stand up,if it" not absolutely necessary,the more she ask,the more you say no,stop giving in or you will be in misery till the day you die,and no-one deserves that.
2006-08-28 11:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by porkupuss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋