why are so many young girls having babies?

Question

Why are you young girls having babies so young 16,17,18,19,20 ,21, you girls are to young for kids................ have fun and enjoy beening young and able to go out to the clubs and parties.

I am not putting any of you girls down I just want to know why are you girls having these babies. People feel that if they are 20 and older that they are grown NO you are not grown age is age but when you still live with mama and papa u are still a child u don't become grown until you are out on your own and paying your own bills. Having a child is more than walking around telling people I had a baby **** any body can have a baby but why babies having babies. you guys are young enjoy life go do........... when you turn 18 that's whenyou really want to go and get out and hang with your friends, and yes sex may come about and it maynot but if you are going to do and you rather not use condoms get on some type of BC. this way you don't have to stop life to take care of a kid. Kids are Sweet loving but no fun when you have to look for a babysitter, deal with the sick days, the age change, it's a lot to taken care of a child. Don't think because u are 21u r grown wrong!

Answer 1

To answer you question, it is because we don't hold them to a higher standard. If a teen gets pregnant and you "dare" to call them on the fact that the act of sex outside of marriage is wrong, you are labeled as judging them not simply saying there is a line and you crossed it. We also make it too easy for them to try and "play" mommy. We give them food stamps, wic and other government assistance (paid for by my taxes) set up special classes and programs for them at school and listen to their "ooh poor pity me" story and feel sorry for them.
Parents are also to blame as they no longer keep tabs on their kids and allow them to find themselves in a situation where sex is even an option. Dating at 13, 14 or 15 is just too young and wrong. Dating not in groups is not safe for those 16 and 17. Also, parents want to be "friends" to their kids not the parent. If we as parents say this is not okay and follow through, teen sex and pregnancy would come to a screeching halt.!
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Answer 2

I totally agree with you. It is ridiculous how young girls are when they have babies. I definitely think any age under 21 is too young. Babies are having babies. I think some girls just want someone to love because they don't get attention at home and some girls just want to have sex and don't know the consequences. As a teenager girls want to do things that are taboo or just want to have fun so they have sex without protection and end up pregnant. In some high schools I have actually heard females say it's cool to be pregnant. That is absurd! Girls should finish school, hang out with their friends, have fun and have a career before having a child. A child is a huge responsibility. Girls don't understand what they are getting themselves into. I think it's ridiculous. If teenage girls are going to have sex then they should use protection or get on birth control. I am 23 years old and still have not been pregnant because not only have I been on birth control for six years but I know that I am not financially ready yet.

Answer 3

No body is judging.... no name calling has been done. we are just saying these young girls are not finaically ready nor are they adults enough to raise children. not to mention having children as a single parent! if anyone has grown up with divorced parents or just one parent then you would agree it is not ideal its very hard on a child, no one wants that life. you need a mom and a dad, just because you can creat e a child doesnt mean you can parent them. and i am sick of paying for them! get off foodstamps and welfare you lazy p.o.s. if you cant handle it with out gov. assistance you should not have children let alone have another.... china has the right idea population control.

Answer 4

I am 24 and having my 2nd child. I agree with what you're saying but I'm living proof that you can have your cake and eat it too. I am lucky enough to have a very supportive family and an awesome husband. My 5 year old is well taken care of and I was at the club or bar or out with my friends at least once a week.

Some of us who have children have regular playdates for the kids as well as for us. it works out great andn I couldn't be happier. When I'm 40 my kids will be grown and I'll still be young enough to party.

Answer 5

Honestly,i think in my opinion the reason so many young ones get pregnant is because they arent properly educated on the risks and consquences of having unprotected sex.Parents often are to embarassed or ashamed to speak with their younger ones about sex.They feel if they dont speak to them about it or educate them on the subject that they arent going to know what to do therefore they wont have sex.Although,it is exactly the opposite,they dont educate them so they get educated from their friends,peers,and other younger ones at their school,or their group of friends when in reality that isnt a very reliable source to get your information on sex because they are just as uneducated as you are.They tend to have to explore everyone is talking about it,everyone is doing it and everyone is ranting and raving about how good it is.That is the thought that is pushed into their minds which in turn results in them having unprotected sex and getting pregnant or std's.They are uneducated ,parents need to open up and realise that if they do not educate their children someone else is going to.If the younger ones were educated on the risks and consequences of sex,we would have alot less teens with std's and with babies.

Answer 6

I know you all have a right to your opinions and I agree that anything before your 20's is too young but I think that until you have been there and had to deal with it you should probably watch what you say.

I am 17 years old and 20 weeks pregnant.

It wasn't that I had a bad up bringing or that my parents weren't around. They've been great, they're always there (I didn't realize that until this came up though) I was raised catholic, used to go to church every sunday even went to catholic school. They always taught me right from wrong... but once your kids hit a certain age, you don't have control over them anymore. You might think that you do but really they have to make thier own decisions and hopefully they will use what they know when they make tough choices.

It wasn't that I'm a teenager out just to cause problems either, until the last year or two I was the biggest little goody two shoes ever thats changed a bit but still, the only major thing i've done to "break the rules" was have sex at a young age. That doesn't make me a slut either though, I was with the guy for over 1 1/2 years and we lasted over year after that. He's the only guy I've had sex with and one of 2 guys I've ever kissed.

I wasn't looking for someone to love me either, I have a HUGE family that loves me very much. And was convinced this guy loved me as much as I love him. We were starting to make plans to move in together, planning to get married at some point (at least a couple years in the future) even picked out some names for when we would have kids ( not unti after we were married)

I didn't do it to get supported by the government. For those of you that have never had to be supported by the government or have never been faced with the reality of quite possibly needing to be in the near future. Its a hard and even humiliating thing for a lot of people to do. But you have to do what you have to do especially when keeping the best interest of your child in mind and making it your biggest priority. I don't want that for my child, a lot of my friends grew up in single parent families, with young parents and were on government support.

I don't want that kind of life for my kid. He deserves better than that. And becuase of that I am looking at the option of adoption ( before you try to say too much about that if you don't REALLY know what it's like, I was adopted at 3 weeks of age and I've seen plenty of couples try to adopt kids, I know a few birthmoms, including my own, and I know now at least part of it from experience) But no matter what I pick, adoption or parenting, my baby's best interest comes first when making decisions and no matter what I'm finishing high school and pursuing my goal to become a nurse.

This pregnancy wasn't planned, it was NOT ON PURPOSE. We knew the risks of unprotected sex and all of that but looking back we made a couple bad choices, and more could have been done to prevent it but we can't change it now and I dare anyone to think back in thier lives and be able to HONESTLY tell me that there was NEVER a decision or situation they were faced with that looking back they see all the would haves, could haves and should haves. Ever heard the saying hind sight is alwasy 20/20?

I guess what I wanted to say is please try not to stereo type all young moms. I'm sure there are girls who get pregnant young and fit some or all of your stereo types, I know some of them. Not all of us do though. And until you know what its like to be in our shoes (whether our pregnancies were an accident or on purpose for all the wrong reasons) you don't know how hard it is to deal with a pregnancy at our age and then throw the stereotypes and our parents and dealing with the babies fathers into the equation too.

PS I'd love feed back on my reply, posotive or negetive

Answer 7

That is exactly why they get pregnant 'cause they go too so many clubs an parties and guys in those places are looking for $ex, usually the girls are needy, dumb and ignorant and they fell for it.

Instead of partying and been in clubs why no to find more healthy ways to have fun? Clubs are not for teens.

Answer 8

I dont think any age is too young well within reason im talking 19, 20, 21 as long as you can supposrt your family without sponging off the gov me and my OH are ttc our third and im 23 we are both working we pay for our children to be in nursery, spongers i cant stand.

Answer 9

im pregnant and im 18... seriously you might think im wrong for doing it or what not but i have reasons for wanting to do it... i dont want to wait until im much older to have my baby because i know people who have and are so tired with life and they dont relate to their kids on a similar kinda state of mind... look when my baby is 18 ill be what...36. i'' still be young enough to go play softball with them when they want me too... my dad waiting to have me until he was 32. and my child hood wasnt as "exciting" as those i know whose parents are younger... and to tell you the truth, being young and going to parties and clubs now a days can get you killed. come on now i live in california. its another twisted world over here... i hope you kinda have a reason for 1 of the million teen pregnancies but lady, i wouldnt trade it for the world!

Answer 10

I blame it on education (ie lack of it). Teens have always had sex, will alway have sex. Those who argue against it- who many orphans were there before birth control?
Sex produces children, unless precautions are taken.
Nobody tells them how to protect themselves.
Logical result- pregnant teens with ruined lives and a blank future