Rules concerning dating, behavier,dicipline
2006-08-28 03:59:58 · 10 answers · asked by kamayja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would want them to know that they should not be having sex until they are adults, but also that, if they do, they need to use protection to avoid catching anything and to avoid starting a pregnancy. So I would tell them about what a tough road it is to be a father, trying to raise a family as a teenager. I might even give them some rubbers. I would tell them I don't want them drinking, but if they do so to CALL for a ride home, to NEVER drive drunk and that I would promise to not be even a little negative about it if they were totally drunk as long as they called for the ride home. I would tell em to get good grades and apply early to colleges they are interested in. I would teach them to drive well--no cell phones, pay attention to your driving not the radio or cd's. Tell em they are responsible for their own lives. Tell em to stay away from drugs and people who do drugs. And not to join the military.
2006-08-28 04:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by jxt299 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a curfew in your town, demand that they be home by that time.
As for dating, I wouldn't try to pick who they should like. If you don't like a particular girl they are interested in, keep your comments to yourself and chances are they will see the light on their own and they will send her on her way themselves.
Don't allow them to spend an excess amount of money buying gifts for their girlfriends. That leads to abuse.
The most important thing in any relationship with your children is to keep an open dialog and an open mind. They should be able to come to you unashamed with any question or request for help. Even though they are only 16/17 years old, it doesn't mean that they are without emotion. Don't let a day go by without telling them that you love them and like having them around. Compliment them when they do well and let them know when they screw up.
You have to remember that you are not their friend, but you are a loving parent who cares deeply about what happens to them. If they are know that you value them as individuals, they will hold that in their hearts and try never to disappoint you. I'm not saying they will be perfect. They won't be because there is always those outside influences.
2006-08-28 11:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know your sons. How mature they are and all. You are going to have to rely on your instincts, cause' all kids are different....If you have a good relationship w/them where you can sit them down and have an adult like conversation about what your asking, then I would start there. Hold the rope too tight and you'll be overbearing, too loose and that could get out of hand...Discuss what you think is fair/age appropriate. They either have experimented with the opposite sex, or are going to!! I discussed with my son mostly about: your gonna do things, at least use protection, if you make me a grandmother before 40 I'm gonna kill ya' (jokingly...yet a tad serious)
2006-08-28 11:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dicipline should be like not being able to go out or not use the car..something like that...i don't think the rules should be too strict about dating at that age..they are almost 18!! i think that once a child turns 17..they should be at that last step..be given full responsibility for what they do and should be responsible enough to make their own decisions!
2006-08-28 11:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is probably not so much your rules as the ways you enforce them. Insisting that a kid not do something without giving them any good reason for it is pretty much guaranteed to get them mad at you, after which they will do it in an attempt to protest against you. Instead, I would talk to them calmly and carefully, making it clear WHY you want them not to do certain things.
2006-08-28 11:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're mom, make sure they respect you and your rules - mom deserves that. Make sure that you have a male figure around to kick their butts as needed and it will be needed.
If you are a guy - for God's sake, don't try and be their friend. They have friends. You'll just look stupid and they will take advantage of the situation.
2006-08-28 11:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I raise two sons...and both were very different. I had the same rules for both...but there just isn't anything written in stone about raising teens. Good luck! I am thankful they are grown! lol
2006-08-28 11:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anne E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sorta depends on the boy, where you live, and what kind of friends he has.
2006-08-28 11:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHOOP ***!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-28 11:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by misshayward 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you find out, please tell me.
2006-08-28 11:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by julygirl75038 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋