Being a gentleman does NOT consist of opening doors and giving up your seat for?

Question

someone. In my view a man without manners is just a w@nker. Manners is a skill LEARNT from his parents Do you agree?
It's well, consideratIion and respect for conventions and other people.

Answer 1

definitely, i agree.

Answer 2

It is also known as chivalry - a term which somehow went out of fashion when women wanted their liberation back in the 1960s and 1970s.

Liberated women then objected to men standing up for them, opening doors, helping on /off with their coats etc etc. As a consequence part of the good manners ethic is no longer taught not only by parents, since the modern generation were brought up in the 60s and 70s and so have little knowedge or appreciation of such good manners, but also by school teachers.

Thus have standards seriously eroded.

Answer 3

I'm sorry it has come to that.
It was always a pleasure to receive a smile and a thank you from a lady, any age.
Can't open a door, can't offer a seat, can't pull up a chair, without receiving a scowl and the feeling that I have insulted a lady. I've had them take another seat, while I'm left holding the back of a chair. Walk around to open a car door and she's already exited. I miss that. Used to get a peak at a thigh now and then. LOL

Remarks like, "I can open a door", or some "insult".

Answer 4

This really annoys me; women want equality but then expect men to beckon to their call. Personally, I'd open a door for a man, woman or child. I'd give up my seat on a bus for ANYONE in greater need of the seat than me. For example. people with shopping or children but not just because the person is female.

I was in a club last night and when a girl asked if I wanted to buy her a drink, I politly refused. She started screaming at me sayng that is no way to treat a lady. I'm gay, spent all my money buying drinks for my skint friend therfore why should I spend my hard earned cash on her just purely becuase she has an extra X chromosome from me?

I will treat everyone with the same respect and expect the same back.

Answer 5

I definatly agree. It isn't about a woman needing their door opened, but it is a sign that they are thinking of you, even with small things.

Whenever I see some 80 year old couple somewhere, and the husband opens the door for his wife it makes me kinda misty to think he has probbably been doing that for 50 years for her.

Oh, and just so you know, Mr 'equality', I don't believe that men and women are the same. I believe that feminism took the 'feminine out of being a woman. I am not a man, don't want to be. Men and women are two totally different creatures, but we are equal. Remember that the next time a woman surprises you with a nice homecooked meal (probbably won't happen any time soon with your attitude)!

Answer 6

Manners are a minimum standard of behaviour, designed to be relied upon to prevent trouble with people who you do not know, or in formal occasions

Being a gentleman is about using your manners in a constructive way, not to convince people that you are not what you appear to be (i.e. a conman).
Being a gentleman is about giving genuine respect and earning it.

Criminals can be very polite, but they are not gentlemen.

Answer 7

What is wrong with a man opening doors and giving up his seat?
If you find a guy like that hang on to him i say!.... people have lost the ability to make nice gestures and be romantic. We all want to feel special and appreciated whatever way you look at it. Good manners is something that goes without saying everyone should practise good manners. Bring back romance! and plenty of it!

Answer 8

I happen to be a gentlemen and yes i can blame some of it on my parents. But for some reason im just a good person. its a curse i think opening doors and giving up your seat is all part of being a gentlemen tho. But i dont think that all my manners came from my parents

Answer 9

I pride myself on good manners. I will be the first to admit I am not exactly etiquette trained but I live by the rule 'treat others as you would like to be treated'. Manners, or respect for your fellow man, is not a gender specific thing, it is every ones responsibility to be a good person.

Answer 10

Now don't go getting cross with me for answering this question, but you know a lot of guys have no idea what they are supposed to do these days when it comes to opening doors, giving up their seat, walking on the outside of the pavement etc, etc, for the women of this world, my husband is a gentleman and always, always does the opening the door and giving up his seat thing for me, but only yesterday he opened a door for a woman and she turned on him really rudely and asked him what the hell did he think he was doing, didn't she look capable of doing that herself, we are equal now and I don't need no dumb man opening a ******* door for me, so what are the guys supposed to do with attitudes like that.

Answer 11

Being a gentleman does consist of opening doors and giving up your seat for some one else as well as other things. There aren't many left these days .......