My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 6 months. We had a ruff start and now I think its going to be a hard ending. we the best of friends but we have a lot of people around in our ear. He's good to my kids that are not his. He's just insecure about me being around his friends. No I don't want any of them nor do i give them the notion that i do. I have never cheated he knows I haven't too it's just breaking us apart his friend keep comming around and all we do is argue over the same things and i'm not really sure i can take too much more. I am deeply in love with him but my heart really can't take any more. Should i stay and tell him his friends can't come around any more?
2006-08-28 03:52:17 · 12 answers · asked by Tate_06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe, in order to say to yourself that you have done and tried everything possible to salvage the relationship, that you should tell him that his friends shouldn't come around anymore. Explain to him that his friends being around you causes problems between you and him. And you would rather them not be around if he feels that way about you and your friends.
If he doesn't honor that request, then the best thing to do is to go your seperate ways. He will never change. And he doesn't respect the fact that you are uncomfortable with the notion of him being insecure around them. No matter how hard you try to make things right, it won't work.
2006-08-28 04:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by WANDERER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him deeply, he is good to your kids and he treats u well what is the problem, especially if is his friends. Let him deal with his friends. That is not your problem. Just make sure u not giving his friends any ideas.
However he seems like he has major insecurity problems probably from a past relationship. You need to get to the bottom of this for the future of your relationship. And if u think he is incapable of changing and u cant deal with it then do what u think is best for u and your kids
2006-08-28 04:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by precioustt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience if you have been together that long and he doesn't know by now that you love him and want to be with him and nobody else then you need to part your ways. If you isolate yourself from everyone else. Sure it will make him happy for a while but because he is insecure he will only find something else later to accuse you of or to fight about. You shouldn't have to walk around on eggshells for anyone. Life is to short to spend time arguing and defending yourself for nothing. Be happy and live life. You don't need a boyfriend to be happy. Good luck hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-28 04:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is really insecure. Are these guys doing things to break you up? Are they flirting with you or saying bad things about you to him? If he loves you at all, he will see that. You should have a heart to heart talk with him. Maybe the solution would be for the friends to meet him somewhere away from your home. If that doesn't work, then confront them in front of him and tell them how you feel about him and that you don't appreciate them trying to cause trouble. If none of that works, then.....time to call it quits.
2006-08-28 03:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope everything works out for you, 18 months is a long time to hope things will get better. This is just my opinion but I believe if it hasn't improved yet it most likely never will. Your suggestion about asking his friends to not come by may help but I have my doubts.....Let me say in all honesty and compassion I believe most people these days have an insecurity when it comes to loosing a loved one. Of course if he chooses his friends that will definately give you your yahoo answer....Good luck
2006-08-28 04:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by l00kstwice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound healthy. Let go and give yourself the chance to meet someone you get along with better. Love is wonderful, but it's never enough to keep a relationship strong. It's just a great place to get started.
2006-08-28 03:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't stick it out. If he's jealous of his own friends he'll find someone else to be jealous of if you push them away. He has problems that he needs to settle. I don't suggest you end things with him, expecially if he's good to your kid. You should try taking some time appart, move out for a while if you live with him or just take a few months off to get perspective. See someone else and see if you want to get back togather after that.
2006-08-28 04:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit him down with some guidelines of what is expected and what isn't. Tell him that if he doesn't stop this crap you will dump him, but you have to mean it. Don't just tell him that and let it happen again. Explain to him that you have never cheated, and ask him what makes him think that you will?
2006-08-28 03:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first are you in love with him or are you in love with the way he looks second just tell him how you feel about the situation and together figure out what the best soulution will be for both of you. Communication is the key
2006-08-28 03:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by LT. DAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be sarcastic but you know the answer already. Sure, tell them they can't come around. Isolate yourselves. You won't find other things about which to disagree. He'll then feel very secure and confident and you won't find any other things about which to disagee.
2006-08-28 03:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋