well i asked and he said he wasn't ready financially. i could understand that , but just the way he answered it. it was like it bothered him that i even asked.and then he told me that when i'm done with school and start making money then, right then and there we'll talk. but he never told me if we were going to have to move out or not. he made so upset, because i feel like is not serious about our relationship. i know what i got to do, but is hard when you are in love, because you see what u wanna see. anyways , i need ur opinions on my situation? and thanks for sahring them with me!!!
2006-08-28 03:51:23 · 4 answers · asked by la nena loca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
After 7 years and he's still not ready. That's a harsh one. He must work in a gas station or something (jk). Marriage isn't about being financially able to support another person, it's about love. Two people working together through everything and overcoming obstacles in their way, together. That's kind of crazy with him saying after you start making money, then he'll talk about it. It's not like every woman wants to work, some like just being a housewife, period. But a lot of men have their own way of looking at a situation. In his case, it's from a financial point of view. I would feel as though I were like a dead-weight on his life and would tend to think that he wasn't seriously putting me first. But you've waited this long already. Finish school, go earn money, and let him bring the subject up to you. If he doesn't, then he really isn't as committed to you as you would like to think that he is.
2006-08-28 04:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you said a mouthful--"because you see what u wanna see. . ." Relationships are about give and take, soft places to fall, sympathy for the other, understanding, honoring each others feelings, needs, wants and desires. If you are ready to talk and plan and he can't even TALK until you graduate and start making money, it's just not a very good sign is it?
2006-08-28 11:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kinda the same thing im going through. But i only been with him for 4 years. When you love someone its hard to leave them caue there not making alot of money. I would choose another guy over him, cause what happens whe ur alone its that broke man tht makes you happy. He is just stressed cause he cant provide for you, that all cause my boyfriend feel the same way and you just have to let them know, that you dont only love him for his money but who he is. Sometimes it dont work, so if he get mad at you dont take it to the heart. So just wait and see what happens.
2006-08-28 11:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Oh Boy!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him more time, he might preparing it or planning it carefully. Its much better to be prepared rather then unprepared. Support him, if you really love the guy, you will help him to plan.
2006-08-28 11:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by rhanz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋