Ive been a good dad to our two kids,i could of done better but work 12 hrs a day,i usually do most the tidying in the house,ive done what i can for my wife,we just argue alot due to her not doin enough around the house etc
2006-08-28 03:50:03 · 13 answers · asked by GEOFF R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whenever something small becomes a problem that means that there is a big problem behind it. You've got to talk to her and ask her what is on her mind. How does she feel about the marriage?
Ask her and don't be afraid of the answer. Email me. My friend and I are experienced with this.
You've got to ask these questions: How does she feel about you? How does she feel about the marriage?
What about you? How do you feel about the relationship?
However, if she asks for certain changes you've got to be willing to step up to the plate and handle your business.
Beware: do not argue. This is important. If she doesn't want to talk then let her know that nothing will change if you two don't talk about it. But never force her.
Let her express her feelings. Do not interrupt. Let her finish then you agree with what she feels: "You're right, you have a right to feel neglected." Like that. There's more to it, but that's a good beginning.
Tell her that you love her and you want the marriage to work.
What's happened is that there has been a break down of communication.
She's kept alot of things inside and it's so deep that it's starting to affect everything she does. Things that were not a big deal before will start to become grounds for an argument. It will only get worse.
You've got to do something right away.
Another thing, keep your voice down. If you yell then you will not communicate efficiently and you will not recreate a love bond with her.
If you feel yourself getting frustrated and angry, then you will have to excuse yourself. Tell her that can feel yourself getting frustrated and you don't want to let it out on her, she doesn't deserve it. Then go throw some cold water on your face or something for two minutes then get back in the game.
Do what you have to do. This is love.
2006-08-28 04:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sexual Chocolate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 00:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife doesn't realise how lucky she is to have a husband who helps out around the house and good father to the kids.. I've gone through 2 divorces of 15yrs and 7yrs because of mental and psychical abuse, the 1 thing you dont need to do is argue and fight in front of your children as it can effect them in later yrs
2006-08-28 04:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her get help, both for you and for her. Maybe she is clinically depressed and that is why she is not doing much except argue, or maybe she is just lazy. We are not there in your marriage. We cannot see.
Go to counselling; on your own at first if need be. There you can learn skills to explain how you feel without indulging your inner child or hers.....
Whichever way it goes, 10 years and two kids shouldn't be thrown away lightly. Good luck to you both.
2006-08-28 04:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married 10 years too. Our marriage nearly failed recently following my hubby 's affair. This website may help you and your wife understand each other better, hope you guys can find enough left to work on. I'll pray for you.
2006-08-29 04:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting - simply refuse to tidy the house anymore. Show her how much you do by not doing it. A silent, but peaceful protest.
2006-08-28 03:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Disgruntled Biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you just yell at her for not pulling her weight and that's the whole story???
Come on. She wants to divorce you for that...
There are always two sides to the story, perhaps you can get counselling to find out her side?
2006-08-28 04:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by patweb01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's threatening divorce to get out of further housework. Just cut right back on the chores you do, explain to her that you're run ragged as it is. Sounds like she won't find another like you!
2006-08-28 03:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by K38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think there is more going on. You don't get a divorce because someone doesn't clean enough.
2006-08-28 03:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i would set up a chore list and if she does not do her share then it does not get done. and do not clean it for her either. don't do her laundry it is time for her to be a woman a wife and clean the dam house,.
2006-08-28 04:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by ~Mrs.C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋