lifetime with just one man. Presuming of course that you get married to him.
2006-08-28 03:41:37 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It's a little bit scary...
2006-08-28 03:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Felicity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wonderful. I didn't always think that way, trust me. I was married to my husband when I was 19 years old...very young I think. For a long time, deep down I was a little bitter, I guess you can say, because I always felt like there was probably something that I'd be missing, etc. We've been through SOOO much and many times neither one of us wanted to continue. But we always did and now we are both at the point that we couldn't imagine NOT spending our lifetime with each other.
My point is, your opinion will change, and eventually you won't think that it is such nonsense. Marry somebody that you love and stay together, don't give up when times get hard and you will eventually never want to spend your life with anybody else....good luck!
2006-08-28 04:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by coconut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's as much a nonsense that a man should be 'expected to' spend his lifetime with one woman.
I think the answer is ...It depends on those people concerned and how they feel about each other.
I think that 'having rules that presume to predict how two people and their feelings are going to be further on down the road, are questionable,' and that those people who take them on board WITHOUT thinking about them and as part of a commitment they undertake to make (in front of witnesses too), are foolish.
With that said, the advent of children in this equasion ...it changes the perspective, considerably.
2006-08-31 11:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's a nonsense that you should be EXPECTED to spend your life with one man. Society's expectations are often damaging and unrealistic for most people. I think one should find your own truths and moral code to live by. It should be right for you. However if YOU WANT to spend your life with one man and that works for you - go for it.
Personally, it seems like a ludicrous and restrictive idea, but I imagine that's only my current view because I haven't found anyone I'd like to do that with.
2006-08-28 21:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Boingy Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question can have many answers as it will.Expect is maybe the wrong key word. The marriage vows do seem to expect it "as long as ye both shall live.." but I still think the word should be 'hope' and then follow faith and then charity.Charity in the biblical sense means love and unconditional,faithfull love is a rare and verybeautiful thing. Alas for our human condition. I think that one of the best books depicting this love is "John Halifax.Gentleman.
2006-08-28 03:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to matters of the heart nothing is nonsense. You should never be expected to spend your entire life with just one man if he's not your soulmate.
2006-08-28 08:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we are made to be so monogamous. Marriage as we know it is a modern sociological design to control the masses and is old and out of date now.
People commit for all sorts of reasons, some marriages last most don't, it is whether you have friendship and companionship that is the lasting factor and whether that is enough to sustain a relationship with someone, because there is the old devil called lust just around the corner...so no it is nonsense to expect to remain with one man for your entire life.....
2006-08-28 08:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's nonsense if you're "expected" to spend a whole lifetime with one person. But, I think if you CHOOSE to spend your lifetime with one person it's absolutely fine (and somewhat wonderful, IMHO). But, the answer is about choice--- you should be able to choose to be with someone or not, marry someone or not, and leave someone or not.
2006-08-28 03:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by answerlady1021 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women have to put a foot down and take attitude , to not be and behave as other wants to be , because anyone can live someone else life and anyone can't be free in his own life in he do not follow his heart and shut it down because the others could to react contrariwise.In fact nothing gives more charm to a women than a free mind and heart who can make any choice she wants her entire life , and even she can do mistakes their would be her mistakes and not of the others .
2006-08-28 04:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Paul Alexandru Cazacliu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not nonsense. It makes perfect sense
esp when you are in love or love that partner. Marriage is a lifelong commitment according to the wedding vows. It makes for solidarity and stability, and a strong foundation.
2006-08-28 06:57:39 · answer #10 · answered by rosieC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is socially expected that you should want to, but it would seem unrealistic to expect that to be the outcome. Marrage is a contract agreeing to be monogamous, so if its not what you actually want, don't marry or let your partner know that forever is till you get bored.
2006-08-28 04:02:36 · answer #11 · answered by paul B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋