my gf thinks i'm not good enough for her?

Question

she wants expensive clothes and every time we dated she'd use my money to buy meaningless accessories for herself and sometimes her friends.. i hate this!!! her friend tells me to ditch her cos she likes me too and she actually hates my gf a lot she complains to me everytime. i dont want to see her sad but how can i control my gfs spending habits? im running low on cash

Answer 1

dump that money spending whore. you deserve someone that likes you for you, not your money

Answer 2

excuse me, u have allowed her 2 do this & now u want 2 cut her off. o m g. i hope this hasnt been goin on 2 long, because she is so using u. yes it sounds wonderful 2 me 2 have a man want 2 spend money on me & frankly that is what i am looking 4, lol but unless u tell the man up front that this is what she is looking 4. unfortunately, it is not u who is not "good enuf" 4 u, so put that thot out of ur mind. it may b 2 late 2 control ur gf's habits. u may just have 2 cut ur losses this time & learn from ur mistake. it is ok 2 make mistakes, but b certain that u learn from them. it sounds like money may have been her only reason 2 b attracted 2 u, this is no relationship anyway. so unless she really cares 4 u as a person, then she may b well on her way out. u need 2 open up the doors of communication with the gf & find out just exactly is goin on. dont let this get so out of hand that u have 2 do major things 2 recoup ur funds. the time is NOW.

Answer 3

Friend, just let her know that you have to move on. With cost of living going through the roof, if you cannot afford to give her what she wants, you just need to move on. Someone will always end up sad, but that's the thing with life, we get over it and move on. Some people are just like your girlfriend, and there's always someone for them. When she's done spending your money, she'll find someone else and spend their money. Eventually she'll probably grow and change, or she'll get her own money and continue to do what she wants. It is her right to be herself, you dont need to control her, you either talk to her about it, move away from the relationshuip with her, or deal with it. Totally up to you.

And please dont leave her for her friend. Who knows, her friend is probably trash talking her to turn you off her so the friend can have you for herself.

Answer 4

Gold digger!

See that's why I have a job. I don't want my bf to buy me something or give me money unless he wants to . I never ask for anything especially money, unless i need gas. That's the only money I ask for.. I'm not to hard to take of. hahahaha
Because I support myself, I rely on myself.I don't depend on myself, not my boyfriend to get what i want. That's just wrong.

That's low of her ,how she uses your money to buy expensive clothes. Spending money that you probably don;t have. Don;t let her walk over you like that. She's not worth it. And if her friend she hangs out with is talking **** about your gf. Why don't you tell you gf. Maybe that will give her a sign, knowing that if she keeps up with that behavior she may loose you. That's what I would do. Fight for my propety and stop using you.

To me it seems like you do love her. But you are not IN LOVE with her. Because you wouldn't let someone talk **** about the one you love behind her back. You should be honest to your gf and stick up for her. Her friend is probably jealous. Don't even think twice about get with that. She probably think she'll ge treated the same way. But play the game and be slick about it.

Instead of acting like your confused and can't make your mind up. Grow up and stop being a ***** about stuff and let her take your money.

Put your foot down you don't owe your gf anything. Having a gf isn't about going broke for her everytime you get your pay check. Tell that ***** to get a job. My advice she doesn't desrve you. Can't you see she's using you! come on now. I'd advise you to break up with her. She's NO GOOD trust me!

good luck! =]

Answer 5

Are you serious??!?!. She's only using you for ur $$$$. If she cared about you she wouldn't spend all ur $$ 4 herself & her friends. She needs a job to learn the value of your $$$.
As for the other girl, she wants you So she'll tell you anything to get what she want. You sound young, Choose wisely. Have a sit down & Talk to her. Make sure you rehearse what you need to say & say it lovingly & if she laughs at what you have to say then she's not thinking about your best interest only hers.

Answer 6

TELL HER YOU ARE NOT HER ATM MACHINE.
She cares not for your feelings, so why bother how she would feel. Moreover she deserves being dumped.

You can never satisfy a greedy and vain girl like her. You are better off without her.

Next time when you find another girl, don't be the walking ATM. If after 6 months or so, a girl is still with you without you opening your wallet up readily, then get closer.

You are being used, wakeup before your wallet empties out!

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Answer 7

Tell her flat out. If she's only interested in your money you don't want her anyway. She shouldn't be blowing your $$ - and buying things for her friends. Does she buy things for you? Sounds like a total biatch. It has nothing to do with class at all. Good enough has nothing to do with the depth of someone's pockets. It's the depth of their character and I'd say she's lacking in that department.

I'd be careful about dating the friend. She's friends with her and yet wants to steal her boyfriend. Friends like that you don't need.

Answer 8

If she was a girlfriend at all (rather than a girl+friend), your wallet wouldn't be so important to the relationship. Ditch her, but not for her friend (although that is pretty good revenge) 'cause if their friends, how different are they from each other? Your wallet (and you)could still be just as unhappy as now.

Answer 9

your gf thinks you are not good enough WELL NO ONES GF FEELS HER BF IS GOOD ENOUGH this is a world phenomena regarding her spending habits you are trying too hard to retain her so she feels she can have her way , reason with her and if she acts like a snob then it is better to leave her ,,,,,,,,she is after your money and sooner or later when you are broke she will ditch you ,,,,,,,,,,,and if she really cares she will look to your reasoning and then improve herself and the relation between you both

Answer 10

First off, it doesn't sound like you respect your g/f very much. If you did, you wouldn't stand for her "friend" trash talking her to you. So there's your first hint that your relationship is not meant to be. Secondly, it seems your g/f needs to learn the value of money. Does she have a job? Is she responsible for any of her finances? Let her know that you earn your money and she needs to do the same.

Answer 11

get done wiht her.....shes a gold digger and all she is gonna use u is for that...if u dont want torun low on cash stop going out wit her its the best thing to do...and ur friend is giving u good advice...jus do it she can get another stupid guy for her needs