To your children that mommy does not have a favorite child?My children seem to think that I play "favorites", although all get the same amount of love, care, stability, and discipline, I do not believe in playing favorites, I know that most children with 1 or more siblings experience this, but any good advice would be helpful. Thank you!!!
2006-08-28 03:29:14 · 4 answers · asked by Ahlam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let your kids know that you care about each of them equally, and just stick to that. There will be different circumstances for kids at different times, always. the thing that they may not understand at first is that they are both going to have different accomplishments at different times. When my daughter has jealous times with her step brothers, she gets reminded, when she does something that deserves praise, that they are not running to me to point out favoritism (i.e. at her birthday, she gets asked if they should feel jealous - she says no, because it is her birthday, and then we talk about how she feels during their birthdays) They get over it, sometimes slowly. The thing to point out is, of course, there are wonderful things about all kids - sometimes they happen at different times. When they do something wrong, if they feel treated unfairly, ask what would happen if one of the other kids did the same thing.
2006-08-28 03:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by monarchfly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am wondering a couple things. first, how old are the children since you use the word Mommy. If they are young, I am wondering why would they say that to you, unless said because you scolded one and other child says"you like him/her better...you didn't yell at them" kinda thing....don't know how many kids you do have, assuming 2 at least, perhaps one child is less demanding than the other. More attention needed cause' they are always into something, and other(s) more passive...Kids say things if they feel left out or just cause' they're kids.....I wouldn't worry so much. Just keep on telling them what you said in your question, and if they keep nagging you about that tell them "NO none of you are my favorite, you all drive me crazy" and laugh about it......then tell them to hush mom needs some quiet !!!!!!
2006-08-28 10:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit them down together and talk to them when they are all there. Look at one and ask, "Do you think you're my favorite child? Then ask the other one. When you get both answers tell them that none of them are your favorite and that you don't have a favorite, they are all your children and you love them all just as much as you love the other one. If they keep it up, then just tell them, "well, if you think ___ is my favorite, I'll just have to buy more stuff for them than I buy for you" This usually will end it, since they don't want that.
2006-08-28 11:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by windandwater 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am dewayngos wife. We have 2 little girls 4and 2. I agree with you that a mom shouldn't have a favorite. All I can tell you is what I do with my girls. I sit them down and tell them that they are both my favorite. I don't love one more than the other. I hope this helps you.
2006-08-28 10:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by DeWayngo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋