At my Junior High School, clothes, hair and beauty basically say what social status you're in, unfortunately. I really want to shop at the "in" stores like Hollister and Abercrombie and Fitch. The problem is, there clothes are really expensive and some times to "sexy" for my age. MY mom lets me get a couple things from those stores (mainly only if they're on sale) but I really want to get my whole wardrobe there! (Or at least more things) I'm not bratty or spoiled, but I just want to fit in- you know what its like! Sometimes my mom and I fight about this-and I hate that cause my moms my best friend. IS there anyway I can be happy and stylish?
2006-08-28 03:24:16 · 15 answers · asked by renthead 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
OK, ask yourself, "Do I really like the clothes" , or do you want a whole wardrobe from them because you want to fit in. If you want the clothes because you really like them, then you need to work for them or work out something with your parents. If you want them just because your friends are into them, that is not a good reason. I remember how stress full those years are and I had similar problems. I found out that the friends that I had were friends because we had fun together, not because of clothes. Another suggestion is go and find your own, not so pricey store. A store that know one knows of. Then you can dress for yourself without any labels. I did that when I was in high school. A couple of my friends asked me "Where are those clothes from". Once they didn't know where they came from, they didn't care.
Good luck
2006-08-28 03:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by redrouster1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not that easy; I was your age once too and fitting in is kind of important - or at least seems so now. But, In life there are two kinds of people; leaders and followers. You don't have to fit in, you only think you do. Always do your own thing and be a leader. What if fitting in included smoking cigarettes or doing drugs? Sure, that might seem cool in High School, but there's nothing cool about a 35 year old smoker wheezing thier way through life. Would you still want in or is that too high of a cost? Jr. High and High School are very brief life encounters. Trust me, when you go to College/University none of that stuff will be important any more. Maybe you and your mom can find some middle ground .. maybe a couple of peices from the "hip" stores. Maybe you could get a part time job (babysitting or something) and help to pay for some of this stuff yourself. Maybe you and your mom could split the costs.
2006-08-28 10:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by CaptainCrunch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all girl, and maybe guys, do this at some time in their lives. That's how our culture is set up. Of course you want to be popular and wear the most stylish clothes. We all do. But, the biggest issue is that you wear what you like, not what someone else likes. Be your own person. Remember this, if you like yourself, it doesn't matter what other people think.
As for clothes, I almost never shop at Hollister and Abercrombie and I think that I still dress pretty stylish. These stores are crazy expensive. Learn to shop around. On of my favorites is Aeropostale. They have wonderful sales all the time. Even Rave has some good deals and more affordable clothes.
I'm only 18 and I just graduated from high school and if I had to start again from jr. high, I would take my own advice. When you want to go to college no one is going to care if you shop from Hollister or Wal-Mart. And in 10 years the people that you are trying to fit in with today probably won't even matter to you anymore!!
2006-08-28 13:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was in High School, my mom put me on a clothing budget. I was allowed to spend $300 a year on clothes, no more. We made exceptions for special stuff like prom dresses and running shoes for track. I could basically shop where I wanted and buy what I wanted, but once that $300 was spent , it was over for the year.
I would buy one or two nice things from the hip stores, but everything else was from thrift stores and second hand stores. You would be amazed at what you can find barely used at places like goodwill or second hand clothing. I could fill my closet with cool stuff for hardly any money. Some friends would even say "where did you find that? I havent seen anything like it at the mall". Thats right, cuz its over 20 years old and back in style.
2006-08-28 10:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think stylish means happy? If you are really shallow enough to think you will find happiness by wearing clothes too "sexy" for your age and causing stress with your mother, who is your best friend, maybe you will. But remember, if you are being shunned by people for how you dress, they will continue to do so even if you dress better, because that is simply the way *they* are. You will *not* fit in.
The only *true* way to fit in is to get comfortable with who you are and make what you are wearing your own fashion statement. Watch "The Look For Less", or shop the sales or thrift stores for really funky clothes -- and wear them with flash and pride. If you love who you are and what you wear, no one can keep you down.
So don't sink -- rise above it all!!
2006-08-28 10:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just trying to show you that clothes don't make the girl. I'm sure alot of the kids in your school, do not shop for their whole outfit in either of those stores. If it's that important to you, then sit your mom down and tell her what you will do to earn the money to buy a whole outfit at one of those stores, and ask for her advise in picking some of that outfit out. Gosh, I remember when I thought I would die if I didn't have a pair of Jordache jeans! Good luck sweetie and hug your mom today.
2006-08-28 10:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still look stylish on a budget... mix in the few pieces that you can buy at those stores with basic pieces you can find at stores like Kohl's, target, forever 21.... if you go with the sleek preppy look its easy to mix and match a bunch of different stuff.
2006-08-28 10:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lipstick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking your mom to buy them for you, try to save your allowance and buy the things you want yourself. Be selective when you shop, skip those you think too sexy for your age.
2006-08-28 10:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by yhansw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son graduate this year, he is a funny, super smart, super nice guy. He gets along with everyone. A couple of years ago he said something to me that I will never forget.....
"You all laugh at me because I am different......I laugh at you all because you all are all the same"
2006-08-28 11:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be an individual and develop your own style. Glad to hear that your moms your best friend.
2006-08-28 10:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by A G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋