My 14th wedding anniversary is tomorrow. We've been separated since May but still get along fairly well. (Mainly for the twelve-year-olds sake). How do I acknowledge this "special" day? or should I ignore it?
2006-08-28 02:46:50 · 14 answers · asked by Jet 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
14 dead roses
2006-08-28 03:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's not even an anniversary card for someone separated. Just go on with your day as usual. No need to acknowledge the day. If he gives you a card or gift, just say thank you.
2006-08-28 02:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...being separated doesn't mean you are divorced. I think it's going to matter what your separation is intended to do? Is it a healing period? Are you working to eventually get back together?
If you do plan on getting back together, I would recommend something small and sentimental, but not flowers. You should know her likes and dislikes. Those dates are important, and if missed, can mean trouble.
In your situation, the gesture alone of recognizing it, will go along way and say something about you, even though you're separated!
Best of luck!
2006-08-28 03:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to acknowledge it, ask her if she feels the same, maybe she will, but if she doesn't, respect her wishes, but you can still do it on your own by doing something meaningful or fun to you. Do what you feel, not what the world tells you. they don't have to live your life with regret. and anyone that just blows you an answer is the kind that wouldn't think twice if you disapeared of the face of the earth, so after that little rant, Do what helps you get thru the day.
2006-08-28 02:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by QueenOfHearts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same sort of situation except that we were still living in the same house on our 25th anniversary and I had filed for divorce already. I mentioned the day to him and said we probably got the same thing for each other......nothing! Until you're divorced, it's still an anniversary.
2006-08-28 02:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you still get along it might be kind of hurtful to have to celebrate this day and if your not together than there is no anniversary there would have been but there isnt now....
2006-08-28 02:59:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separated or divorced? If you are just separated then you are still married. It might do your relationship some good to give him a card or something. I think it would be sweet. Good luck!
2006-08-28 02:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by vvvlambert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on where you want the relationship to go. May isn't that long ago, and if neither of you are seeing other people, then it might not be a bad thing.
2006-08-28 02:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are separated, I would not celebrate your anniversary as there are obviously some problems.
2006-08-28 02:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the 12 year old out for dinner
2006-08-28 02:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if theres no hope of reconciliation do nothing If you might get together again then go out for dinner and talk about it..
2006-08-28 02:49:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋