IM pregnat but i cant take the fights and the pain im goign threw with my boyfriend i want to leave him BUT i love him i dont want to raise a kid on my own !!!
2006-08-28 02:43:21 · 20 answers · asked by ChuLAD3P0nC3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FIX OR LEAVE IT
2006-08-28 03:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could be emotional changes in you, could be him being scared and not ready to be a dad, could be both of you not sure of what you really want and the fights are just a cover-up for the real problem. Have you tried to find out what the real cause(s) of the fight(s) is or are? Pregnancy is a huge complication if people are not stable emotionally especially towards it and can cause real anxieties which manifest in fights. Go a step further and try to find out what the real cause of the fight and then decide on what you want to do in the future about yourselves, your baby and all that stuff. What comes out should help in resolving the issue of the pregnancy and the future baby and the status of the baby (to be with both of you as parents or you raise the baby as a single parent) . Time is not on your side and the sooner you know this the better for your emotional stability. Good luck!
2006-08-28 10:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Counsellor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is not ready to become a parent and is picking fights. Agree with most of what he says and soon he will find no use in arguing. See he is looking for a way out, an excuse to walk away from responsibility. Seek counseling, if he doesn't want to go go alone but do get help for your sake and the baby you are about to have. Goodluck hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-28 10:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by curious me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is when you have to start thinking of someone other that yourself. The baby comes first now. If you have a stressed out pregnancy the baby WILL be affected. Leave this b/f and go out on your own. Their are many programs and agencies like families first that will help. They provide needs to the mother and baby, and will even help with schooling, and carreer so you will never been in this situation. Remember always be with a man because you want to. NOT because you have to. If he truly loved you he wouldn't create this much stree that you had to make a choice like this.
2006-08-28 09:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by FANNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont leave him unless their serious fights everyone has fights and make up and even though you dont want to raise a baby alone think about how the baby will feel if you two are always fighting and when it grows up who knows how itll turn out if its around violence all the time. all i can say is think about the babies future before your relationship.
GOOD LUCK
2006-08-28 09:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going through constant stress due to your bf, then you're putting your baby and yourself at risk for stress-induced complications. I understand you're scared, but you can raise a kid on your own. I'm raising two. It gets difficult, but I'd rather do it myself than be unhappy for the rest of my life. You need to decide which is more important. Ultimately the choice is yours.
2006-08-28 09:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
weight everything out, is it worth the fighting and the emotional stress on you and your baby if you stay with him, vs. a lloving environment for you and your baby, if you can attach to your family and i know that sometimes your family dosent understand and they may not be all there for you
But,
Is all the fighting and pain your going through just from the pregnancy or was it there before, could it just be the situation, is he up to handleing a child, your best option is to confront him and tell him exactly wat is going on inside you wat your feeling and thinking and lay it out make him understand where you are coming from, hope this helps all in all it all comes down to the point to where you have gave birth and that little you is staring up at your face and they grab for your hand...you are now responsible for this child and s/he needs you for everything, you need to be able to give it all to s/he without distractions and uncertainties from your Boyfriend
2006-08-28 09:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Shy Town 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fighting with ur b/f it's not healthy to be with him anyway, the emotional stress is really bad for the baby, I suggest you tell him you cant see him for awhile unless he can stop fighting with you and be more reasonable, in the meantie turn to your family and friends for help
2006-08-28 09:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by Uninvited_Ideas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can u love someone who are making your life a misery? It is not bad to raise a child on your own. Leave him while you can.
2006-08-28 09:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by deimosje 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought about this before you got pregnant. Now it's not about what you want,it's the child.Learn form the mistakes,drop the boyfriend,move on.
2006-08-28 09:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your stuck between a rock and a hard place. Pray honey. That's all you can do. Just pray.
2006-08-28 09:47:50 · answer #11 · answered by gapeach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋