should i sleep with my bf and have sex. i mean what should i do i love him so much. our relitionship is for 2 years. should i have sex with him. he asked me. should I????????
2006-08-28 02:42:34 · 13 answers · asked by Devily 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
You didn't mention how old you are. Just because he wants you to have sex with him doesn't mean in the end he is going to leave you even if you two have been in a relationship for two years. Guys are hard to figure out I know they seem to have always have one thing on their mind sex, which is true they do. Just make sure your on some sort of birth control if you decide to do make love to him. Condoms are fine but you need to have some other pack up plan encase the condoms breaks use spermicidal jelly in you and you be safe. Most planned parenthood advisors don't mention that if spermicidal jelly is placed inside the Virgina of a woman when a man uses a condoms it just as effective as taking the pill. I found this out this information from three doctors living in various part of Canada. The pill is good too but use a condoms too you might be his first sex partner, guys do lie about that too. So i you do go this route becareful he doesn't dump you and use something to prevent pregnancy and STDs.
2006-08-28 03:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Gail M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I wanted to sleep with my boyfriend in high school, but I didn't, and now I'm glad. I'm married, and even though we had sex before we were married, it's nice to be the other's only one.
All that aside, you really shouldn't have sex until you're ready to deal with the consequences. For us it was a baby, are you prepared to take care of that? Their not all cuddly, I promise. What about protecting yourself? You need to know all forms of birth control (condoms, the pill, spermacides, etc) and really should use two to keep from getting pregnant. Condoms are your only protection against STDs, and they don't prevent all of them. There are websites that tell you specifically what each birth control's success rate is, and what it can protect against. I reccomend finding all your facts before you have sex.
Also, think about the next year. Will you still be in high school? If this guy isn't for real, will you want to see him every day? Chances are, this is not the guy you will end up marrying. Just think long term, what will your next boyfriend think about your relationship with this guy. I know it's hard to look past high school, but sometimes it really helps.
I hope you make the right decision for you. Many girls have sex with several guys and still manage to find that one. I had sex with one, but did other things with other guys. When I got married, I felt really guilty that my husband wasn't the first to touch me, but not everyone feels that way. Always look ahead. If you're prepared to deal with the worst (pregnancy, aids, hpv) go ahead. Look at some pics of stds. If you don't want to deal with those, re-think your decision.
2006-08-28 10:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by teeney1116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not about sex alone. though is very important. A guy that demand for sex all the time may not love u. So you have to be very careful. Love come naturally when there is a true love rather than be giving on demand. Don't give it to him on demand, tell him to allow it happen naturally
2006-08-28 09:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by openup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old you are. i have had friends with GF's that are in year 12 and their girlsfriends havnt done anything and they have been partners for over 2 years.. id say sex is a exspressions of your feeling and if u feel right about do it... because this is life and my philosofie is that ,, most of the time you willl look back and regret things even if you id / or didnt do it... if u feel if you must do it... do it.... i hate saying to myself i SHOULD have because that is something you cant change.. if you feel you are up to age for it just do it.... just make sure u kno what you are doing and that you trust the person and love them.
2006-08-28 09:49:14 · answer #4 · answered by AIZIN<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not until you're married, hon. It's the best gift you can give if you save your virginity until after your wedding day. There are lots of reasons why you shouldn't give it away before then, and I don't want you to do something you regret, okay? Think about it!
Have a nice day :)
2006-08-28 09:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by sillysister4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on if you feel you are ready or not? How old are you? Would he be your first? You have to make sure this is something you WANT to do, not something you feel pressured to do.
2006-08-28 09:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by thick_but_also_beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your age is legal...you should take all safety measures b4 doing it...like wear condom 4 urself...
2006-08-28 09:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by ultraman_in_space 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, sleep with your husband instead.
2006-08-28 09:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh cmon ... ur stupid to sleep wid him lik kinda jus now init...ssw wa im sayin??? n thn after all it depends how desperate u r!!! .. hope not much:|
2006-08-28 09:49:11 · answer #9 · answered by narmisimran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had u been my GF...........man I wud hv taken care of that lil' doubt of u'res........
but lets get real.........shall v?
NO.........its not a ******* gud idea to sleep with him
n' yes.......BTW........had I been u're BF......wud've never asked u' such a irrational thing mate!!!
chao!!!
2006-08-28 10:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by mortal_sinner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋