It seems to me that the initial love can fade, and that a marriage based on love with no commitment to get through the bad times is more likely to end in divorce.
But if a marriage is based on commitment to one another, it seems that love would naturallly follow this and is more likely to be a marriage that lasts for a lifetime.
Do you agree or disgree and why?
2006-08-28 02:42:05 · 17 answers · asked by Searcher 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
But it seems that even if two people love each other, commitment won't necessarily follow. And when rocky times come in a marriage and the couple gets upset love cann fade, but it seems as if there is commitment to one another, you will weather those rough times and can then rekindle the love.
2006-08-28 02:48:25 · update #1
I agree...commitment is the most important. There are times in a marriage when maybe you look at the other person & they make you mad or you're going through a tough time, if you're truly commited to your mate, you get through these times much easier & the love will always return. It's a different, much deeper love that comes with real commitment.I think that's why we have so much divorce...people fall into romantic love & get married but as soon as the tough times come, they leave the relationship. There was no commitment there to begin with.
2006-08-28 02:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your argument sounds good. I think that love is most important though. With love, commitment will follow. If you don't love enough to commit, you don't have much of a marriage, which as you said, will likely end in divorce.
Being committed but not in love is not much of a marriage. You are just living the motions of a marriage, without having any real love. This is just a sham marriage, being forced to stay together because of the commitment.
2006-08-28 03:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that commitment is more important. You can fall in and out of love during a marriage, but if you have the commitment, and both people work at it, love can come back again
2006-08-28 02:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by alabamakevin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very hard, but i would have to say love comes first though some people might argue that it should be lust at 1st sight, not luv at 1st sight. nevertheless, i do believe that love exists and along with it, comes the will to get together or commitment. however, there are also people who are tied by commitment and later found love within each other. such is the cases of 'buying a wife' that happens in many parts of the world. im glad that i am not one of those cases.
a marriage tied by commitment without love could be a shaky one but a marriage tied by love without commitment is also bound to break. both factors are important, but love will unite us.
2006-08-28 02:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by portivee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In marriage, you love first then you will get the grace to get committed as marriage is not a bed of roses. If you do not love, then you will not find commitment easy to assume. Believe me, marriage is the greatest test of resilience. So you will only commit if love is there but the other way round is very tricky!
2006-08-28 02:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Counsellor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither.
Communication and respect are the most important parts of a marriage. Without either, there cannot be love or commitment.
2006-08-28 02:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Beetlehead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of love by definition is commitment. That's what makes it no longer infatuation. I love my husband, but I don't get that giggly feeling like I did when we were first dating. And sometimes he drives me crazy, but I keep coming back for more because of love. So I think love without commitment isn't love at all. But worse, commitment without love is buisness transaction.
2006-08-28 02:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Brena 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Understanding each other is more important than these two. then comes the tolerance . Next is love and affection then only commitment.
2006-08-28 02:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really feel none of them are important without TRUST
Trust can make or break your love for someone
Trust can break that commitment you had
Trust can end a marriage
You have to trust each other totally unconditionally
2006-08-28 03:03:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its neither commitment nor love. coz love is only immaginery, it dose'nt exist. what more important is the understanding between the two and the urge to be together, finally commitment comes along with these
2006-08-28 02:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mrudu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋