how can i convince my hubby to become a swinger?

Answer 1

Once again I can't believe the knee-jerk responses from some that know nothing of swingers and swinging, but yet have formed a negative opinion of it based on their personal biases and fears.

Here is a good passage from The Swingers Board FAQ section regarding this exact subject:

What kind of people are swingers?

All kinds of people. Swingers come from all walks of life, all races, all incomes. One common bond is that they are interested in exploring sexual fantasies, they are honest with themselves and others, and they tend to communicate better with their partners than the average couple.

How do I convince my partner to swing?

This is probably one of the most common questions we see on the message board. Basically, you DON'T CONVINCE your partner to swing. Swinging is not for everyone, and it might not be for you and your partner. Before you think about trying to convince your partner to swing you should first look at yourself and examine the reasons you wish to swing. Are you wanting to swing so that you can "get more action", if so, then don't bother. This is not the lifestyle for you. If, however, you want to swing because you want to help your partner live out fantasies while living out your own, or because you want to share the most special part of your life (your partner) with others, then you can start looking at how to talk to your partner about swinging. You may not even need to convince your partner. They may already be more than willing, all you have to do is let them know that you are. On the other hand, they may not have ever thought about it. Communication is the key to opening all of the doors here. The first thing you need to do is talk to them about your fantasies, perhaps leave a swinger mag lying around for them to find to stimulate a conversation, or have them look through Swingers Board with you. Be open to any questions that they may bring up and be prepared to answer why you want to do this. If your partner lets you know that they have no interest in the lifestyle, then back off. Pushing them will get you nowhere. However, you can mention your fantasies to them, if you can get your partner turned on to your fantasies then you will have a much better chance of opening the lines of communication again and the chances of taking things further will increase.

Hope that helps to really answer your question rather then just give you an opinion about swinging.

Answer 2

Take him to the park and show him the new swingset and all the kids enjoying it. He'll be back in the "swing" of things in no time! Geeeezzz....these people here have dirty minds, I don't think they got the point of your question!

Answer 3

If you're bored with same ****, file for divorce and find a new one. Don't try to convince a normal person to follow ur unhealthy thoughts.

Answer 4

Why would you want to. It usually destroys most marriages because what starts out to be fun and games turns into jealousy and lack of trust.

Answer 5

Say - I would like a divorce. I am not happy with you and I want to sleep with other people. After the divorce feel free to do what you like.

Answer 6

You probably can't if he isn't the type. If you show him a hot couple that swings and he isn't into it then he isn't into it... Your S.O.L. if that's the case and you like to swing... But does he know you swing? If he didn't know it about you tell him and see what he thinks

Answer 7

If you have to force him then I think you would be in for Big trouble down the road

Answer 8

TEACH him how to dance,so you like 40s music

Answer 9

Throw a couple of hot chicks at him. That'll do it!

Answer 10

I'd say if you persuade him to do you and you sister, you're better than half way there.