I told him i only want to be with him what should i do?
2006-08-28 02:17:27 · 23 answers · asked by RoseAngel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tough question to answer since i don't know how he treats you and how you treat him but i know that he could be trying to drive you away because he thinks you do deserve better. I know that i tried to drive my wife away and make her not love me because i always hurt her emotionally and i wanted her to do better. I know that it was a mistake and that her leaving wouldn't solve the problem. The only thing that would solve the problem was for me to take control of myself and treat her the way i think she deserves to be treated. THe other scenerio is that he wants to have sex with soemone else and he is telling you before hand to ease his guilt and make you think he is doing it for your own good. Which is rediculous. He needs to grow up and be the man you deserve not give up and try to drive you to someone else. If its the second scenerio he is just manipulating you into letting him do what ever he wants.
2006-08-28 02:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell, that men and women are different. We might think about cheating and will never say it. We might be cheating and never say it. But when a man says it, it probably 9 out of 10 has already done it. If you are the type to put up with it because you love him and don't love yourself enough so be it, but if you love yourself just a little bit you wouldn't put up with that behavior.You are doing yourself, him and the relationship a very bad harm because you will get him used to and give him a sign that it is okay. I will be out of there Yesterday.
2006-08-28 03:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by martica595500 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, girl. Sounds like head games. He may want to cheat...so he is going to "spare your feelings" by saying that you deserve better?!!? How about those vows??? You DO deserve better. Aside from all of the emotional stuff, what about possible disease? I am going through a divorce now, jerk walked out. Two months later, I am THRILLED that he left. He treated me like a doormat for years. You deserve better.
2006-08-28 02:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Lyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just a cop out on your husbands part. He want's his cake and eat it too. If a man can get the milk for free, then why buy the cow. When he gets done cheating he will be right back begging and swearing he will never do it again. UNTIL THE NEXT TIME! Pack his bags and send him on his way. If he is telling you he's gonna do it, he probably already has.
2006-08-28 02:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he said to you was a crock of sh*t!!! It's his way of telling you he'd cheat on you no matter what cause he doesn't think you deserve better, but because he thinks he deserves more women in his bed.
Tell him to give you 100% of himself or to leave you to find someone with a little more maturity than the one you are stuck with now.
2006-08-28 02:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds you love him dearly
There must be reason,He is under a big strain
Is there poor sexual relationship need to be addresed and worked put
Is he financially ruined , fired from job and need some talk to repair.
Are the children troubling and he is really busted.
Find out the roots of the matter
Then if u willing to stand up for it,then give it a go
Otherwise go seperate ways for ur own sole sake , his and the children if any..
Good luck
2006-08-28 02:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by qwerty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read some of the other answers and I say may he's not good enough for you. Maybe he doesn't want to leave but thinks you should. I say it sounds like you deserve better.... and you should get out of dodge!
2006-08-28 02:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Lt. Harris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's wanting out of the marriage and this is an excuse. No one ever predicts they will cheat, they usually just do it. You need to have a heart to heart with him and find out the root of the problem. It's possible he already has someone on the side. Good luck to you!
2006-08-28 02:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol wow sounds like a lame excuse to go out and cheat, and to get out of the marriage, but make him smell like a rose as if he's doing it for ur own good.. or for u to say Well go ahead and cheat im not going anywhere, that way he knows u'll stick around and he can cheat at the same time..
2006-08-28 02:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he said that he doesnt deserve your love..why he's going to say that to you?if he really cares for you he won't hurt your feelingsor even think that he's going to cheat on you.....what u have to do is start to save your own money at least just incase it happen you your own money and you can go where you want then move on.
2006-08-28 02:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋