he doesnt know that i know hes gay
2006-08-28 02:08:42 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Keep him in the closet and make sure you lock the door.
2006-08-28 02:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by herbs411_42719 5 · 0⤊ 10⤋
I do know how you feel. You are around a person long enough and sooner or later, you pick up on things; some verbal, some non-verbal -- and I am not talking about him being flamboyant or anything like that. Sometimes he will talk about it with you in an indirect way but never come right out and confide in you his orientation. It's as if he is testing you or seeing how far he can push your buttons before your curiosity gets the best of you and you finally ask him. (I am a man and had a very good friend do this -- he said he was going to say something but then clammed up.) For me, it worked out that I eventually did confront him, but by that time, the friendship was breaking down anyway. In the case I just described to you, I was and am not unhappy that I confronted him. Remember, it all depends ... he may come back to you and say, "I don't want to talk about it." That pretty much answers your question to him in the affirmative.
I feel that those who tell people not to ask have never been toyed with by closeted people who talk about their orientation indirectly. Especially in adulthood, and between close friends, this is an annoying practice.
Tell him you want to ask him something important. Tell him you will still be his friend. Then ask him and get it out of your system. But do all of this in a private place.
2006-08-28 03:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would sit down with him, just the two of you and ask him if he is gay, be sure to tell him you are ok with it, and then he might open up and tell you the reasons he has not come out. He could be scared of the reaction of friends and family
2006-08-28 05:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Finally home 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How can he politely tell you that your *** is too big. Answer, he can't. It is not up to you to decide when or if he decides to come out of the closet. Mind your own business.
2006-08-28 06:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is shifting in together with her it is advantageous, yet i think of earlier any very final plans are made, she ought to tell that woman common what her thoughts are, in order that she has a heads up whats happening..then it is going from there.
2016-10-01 00:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the icecream man drive over to his house and announce something on the loudspeaker that if he comes out, he gets a free Drumstick!
2006-08-29 01:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by retardedpossum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can let it go and eventually he will come out. You could also joke around in a playful way that would not result in hurting him. That way, it would make him feel some what comforting and trusting towards you. It builds up self-confidence in accepting who he is!
2006-08-28 03:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by justincausejustintime 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ask him if he wants to go to a drag show. No, seriously, I have some gay friends. Don't "out" him. When he's ready he will. If you're really a close friend, you'll know when the time is right to approach the subject.
2006-08-28 02:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by shermynewstart 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Just try to convey the the concept to him that you don't have a problem with homosexuality. Ultimately it is up to him to make the decision and he will tell you when he's ready.
2006-08-28 09:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not up to you, it's his decision to make. Just make sure you indicate you are OK with friends being gay. If you have other gay friends who are out, mention them to him. If he wants to tell you that he is also gay, he will. Otherwise, respect his choice and his privacy.
2006-08-28 03:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Are you sure he's in the closet?
He'll come out when he's ready, not when you're ready. If you're a true friend, you'll be there to support him if and/or when he does come out.
2006-08-28 02:21:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋