"I never made a promise in my whole life because promise to me is a bind of my life to the word I give."
We have relationship for 2 yrs. and we agreed to get married, we really love each other. We made lots of memories. Our parents did'nt know this. Before I went to a 3weeks training in US and She went back home to her parents, I made a PROMISE to her that "I WILL WAIT FOR HER TO RETURN TO ME". (I really love her that's why I made that promise and she really knows that I'm telling the truth). She is a muslim by the way. After few months, She told me that she will be getting married. It was a family arranged and she could not refuse/resist her parents. I tried to convinced her but nothing happens... Right now, there are no specific date of wedding. The pain of losing her is killing me. What should I do: "To wait for her even though she's getting married" or "break the PROMISE that I made". (Breaking the PROMISE means killing myself, call me stupid but that is me).
2006-08-28 01:24:25 · 9 answers · asked by rhanz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its like this, if she did not return to me, the "PROMISE" continues, only she can break the "PROMISE". For me, I'm just waiting for her to return and break that "PROMISE". I really don't know if that is a promise, its like a curse!
2006-08-28 01:58:31 · update #1
First of all, u didnt breach the promise she did by not coming back to u and choosing to marry another, u can only wait on someone if the waiting is going to pay off , but she didnt come back nor is she coming back, so its not that u broke her promise to her, its she broke her promise of Love to you, so she is the one breaching ur relationship, which basically means u dont have to hold up ur end of your promise.. so its not a life or death situation.. she chooses to do what her family wants her to do.. u cant give up ur life to wait for her if she is never coming back.. u gave ur word to her, on the promise she would return to u.. but she is breaking that promise.. so ur promise isnt urs to break, she already broke it herself.. so u shouldnt feel guilty or ashamed cause u held up to ur end of the bargin , she didnt..
But.. if u love her this much..id wait till she is actually married to someone else, to actually stop waiting, just incase she decides to come back to u, but once she marry's another, then she's made her decision and it has zero to do with u promising her anything, she breached the relationship by agreeing to be with someone else the rest of her life..
2006-08-28 01:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait, even though it's hard. Sounds like you made a promise with good intentions but maybe out of touch with reality (you might have known that this was a possibility). So you're not breaking a promise just changing it to be in touch with your world. You can promise to love her forever but don't wait forever.
2006-08-28 01:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by Issabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be such a martyr, you think your going to end up with some medal of honor attached to your grave? No, life will go on without you and for what? You didn't break the promise, she did, so your going to kill yourself? Thats the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. Get on with your life, everyone gets hurt and we all live through it. Your not the first or the last one to feel this way, time heals all wounds.
2006-08-28 02:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well please don't "kill yourself". If she really goes through with the marriage I would say the promise is already broken anyways. There is no good in it for you to walk around miserable and alone. There are other people in the world that you can connect with and love.
2006-08-28 01:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by nic_tammyscott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent breaking a promise she has released you by telling you she wont honor it
You need to realize that her traditions are very hard to break
Good Luck to you and God Bless!!
2006-08-28 01:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your pain,I really am not sure how to advise you on this but (I am not making fun)maybe you should write Oprah on this one.She helps alot of people.GL
2006-08-28 01:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for her if its true love she will be back without a doubt.
2006-08-28 01:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by oxygenO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is getting married to someone else, i think that releases you from your promise.
2006-08-28 01:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
F%%$$ that.
Only a sucker would wait.
2006-08-28 01:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by billyandgaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋