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2006-08-28 00:52:27 · 8 answers · asked by instilleddistress 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Listen to me- GET RID OF THIS LOSER. You seem like the sweetest person in the world, but you're hanging off this guys every last word- stop that. You definitely need to leave him. When a guy knows he can't have you, he will want you even more. When you're gone, he will then realize what he's missing out on. For the 4 day incident, your man is an *******. You need someone as generous and loving as you are- not an insensitive *****. Good luck with what you do, but you def. deserve better.
2006-08-28 02:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read only the most recent post and part of the one before that, but it seems to me (my first guess) is that he probably IS happy you're pregnant, and scared at the same time. It sounds like you guys like to go out and have fun, and maybe he thinks after the baby is born he's going to never be able to see his friends again because he'll always be strapped down at home with a crying baby, so he's making up for it now by going out early and staying out late? You need to tell him this isn't the case...he WILL be able to see his friends again after the baby is born. Right now, YOU and your BABY need the most support. He's had his friends for a long time and he'll always have them. You guys need to focus on your relationship and your baby for a while. If his friends are REAL friends, they'll understand and give you some space. You sound like you're having some pregnancy "hormonal" moments too. I remember those days. :)
When a couple has a baby, there's a LOT of growing up to do (on both the dad's and mom's part), and many people don't realize this, and continue to drink and party and leave the baby with a sitter. I hope your boyfriend isn't this type after the baby is born. I think he'll come around.
And what were YOU doing at a bar...especially if you thought you were miscarrying????
2006-08-28 11:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser! When you meet the right guy you should know. He will treat you with all the love and respect you deserve and not cheat on you. If your boyfriend wanted you to abort his baby he probably is going to end up leaving you. This guy is what is stressing you out. Hopefully you have supporting friends and family to help you deal with this because you shouldn't have to go through it alone. Only you can decide if the relationship is really worth it. Good luck with everything.
2006-08-28 08:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Christinamk227 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he is still a mama's boy who can't make decisions for himself. If he wants you to abort the baby, he doesn't want to take responsibility for his actions, and if he didn't want you to get pregnant, he should have wrapped it up! You deserve better than that. You seem strong, and I bet you will be able to make it on your own. He already has a bad track record with you, so I would suggest getting out while you still can. If you leave him and he decides he wants to see his child, let him, but don't force the baby on him. That could only make it worse. Try to not get stressed out, it will only hurt you worse.
My oldest daughter's dad walked out on me when I was 7 months pregnant and told me to abort the baby. She is now 13. Her sperm donor has still not acknowledged her existence, but he is not late on his child support payments, either. I make sure of that!
To make a long story short, you can do it on your own if you have the will. Good luck to you!
2006-08-28 09:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that black background hurt my eyes. I went through the same thing with my boyfriend (now my husband) when we found out I was pregnant...neither one of us wanted the child but we thought that since we had done the deed, we had to pay for it, so we kept him and everything changed after I had him. Just be patient....or you could break up with him and see what happens...just don't take him away from his child...this is between you and him, and the baby shouldn't have to pay for it.
2006-08-28 08:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by squigit1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dislike the way he treat you.. why cant he bring you out with his friends? Why he still **** his ex gf? Do you feel he goes out with his friends then his ex is always there n that is the time he nv bring you out?Use yr heart n think.. Does this man worth yr trust? If not jus break off with him n take care of your baby yrself.. Women nowadays are independent n we do not need to be manipulate by men. We have our own abilities to support ourselves. Just stop yr misery n concentrate in taking care of yr baby..
2006-08-28 10:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try making the font biger and softer background, all i can see now is your sentances. i think you should end it with him, he might be the same after you have a kid, and then you will be stuck at home and pissed off.
try acting like he does, see how he reacts.
2006-08-28 08:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by mintymoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i dont like what he is doing to you, why arent u allowed to go on those trips with him.. if he was my man he would be out of my life, and then disrespecting you and going to another bitches birthday party,,,hell no... dont put up with that, hes just testing you and seeing what u will put up with!!!!tell him he changes or e gets out of ur life!!!!u dont deserve to live ur life **** that!!!!i wish u luck girl
2006-08-28 08:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋