.. but its like its coming to my body that i need it.. but im still controllingmyself.. what should i do?
2006-08-27 23:37:38 · 22 answers · asked by chic_girL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you don't want to have sex with anyone then don't there is no reason why you cant release your sexual tensions on your own without actually having full sex with anyone. if your body is going through changes (puberty) then its understandable because your hormones are raging but it doesn't mean that just because your hormones are raging that your body is telling you to have sex......to have a sexual partner you got to be mentally and physically ready for the consequences (both positive and negative). i really would wait if i was you.....don't just have sex for the wrong reasons, have sex with the right person for all the wonderful right reasons.
2006-08-28 00:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is, if you don't want to have full, penetrative sex, then don't. Just wait until you find the right person with whom you feel it is right to have that sort of relationship as there is no need to rush into it. I too think you are still very young. As one or two of the answers have said, even oral sex has its dangers. Also, there is nothing wrong with masturbation. When you have some private time, enjoy yourself while learning about your body and what feels good. That is the safest way of releasing your feelings and emotions, without the anguish that come from a physical relationship with someone else. Stay safe.
2006-08-28 06:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you haven't said how old you are but I feel that you are still very young. There is no age at which you have to have sex. It is far, far better to wait until you meet the person you choose to be your first sexual partner. Something as wonderful as sex should be special the first time. I hate to think of you being hurt and bruised by a bad experience. Just wait - in the meantime, if you are having strong sexual urges, you should masturbate - there is nothing wrong with it, it's healthy and normal.
To put my answer in perspective, I am an old woman. My son is 23 and still a virgin - he just hasn't met that special person yet. I see him get stronger and more grounded every day - he is building his strength before that rush of hormones that happens with one's first sexual relationship sweeps everything away - you do the same. I wish you all the luck in the world, dear. Just remember, you are special and noone can make you do anything you don't want to do.
2006-08-28 06:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by TC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're controlling yourself, you do want to have sex now. you didn't mention your age, which only matters if you're not of age. rather it is not a problem if you are of age and have not yet had sex, which is suppose to be for procreation. that of course has been proven wrong for there is much love between people who might be homosexual and are in love, and share that with each other as do many staight single people who use protection, one of the same, right? this is something best kept for the one you feel a connection with, at least to me. you're not hurting anything, on the contrary, showing absedance is a very attractive and strong trait. God has blessed you. may you dream of the future and may it reveal to you your intended path...
2006-08-28 06:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save your most treasured possession for the right man. In the meantime, use your fingures or a battery powered friend and plenty of imagination.
2006-08-28 07:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by geminipetelondon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! You do not have to do anything you do not want to do. You can distract yourself and do something else you enjoy, like reading, or talking to friends. I am proud of you. It is risky nowadays to have sex, even orally due to the diseases out there. I am pulling for you. Keep praying and telling him your feelings you are having. He can help.
2006-08-28 06:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling arroused then there are other ways to realise this type of tension from yourself like using a vibrator or masterbating. Dont feel like you have to have sex to realse these feelings.
2006-08-28 06:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by clairie1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do until u really want to because if you do it than you r having sex for the wrong reason.
2006-08-28 06:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Than wait until your either married or find the right person. Just don't wait till your 90.
2006-08-29 04:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by bobbie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to have sex, well...DURR, DONT! Your body cant force you to! Everone has sexual feelings, it doesnt mean you have to go and have sex to control them, its normal. Nobody NEEDS sex!
2006-08-28 07:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋