when I was that age I never dreamt of stealing anything or drinking alcohol, now it seems like all of my daughter's friends are doing it (and more) - is this usual these days ?
2006-08-27 23:33:56 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. There is a serious parental disconnect happening here.
13 is an age which requires more direction not less. It sounds like she needs a new circle of friends. You will not be very popular but you must take control quickly. Keep her away from the kids that will lead her into trouble. She should thank you for it later.
2006-08-27 23:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being a 14 year old girl i know that it is normal for teenagers to get drunk. not nescesairily good, but normal. i suppose at age 13 they are stealing it because the shops wont sell them alcohol. and i drink very occasionally, but i have never stolen alcohol. it tends to be that the younger teens drink more, at least more in a way which isnt sensible at all, and dangerous, simply because they think it is "cool" i know it would be nice to convey to your daughter that it is not, but that is not possible - she will need to make her own decisions there is no point in banning her from drinking, as this will just encourage her do drink in secret, and as it seems that you have quite an open relationship with her it would be a shame to ruin that. you can, of course discourage her, however.
as for stealing, that is not a good idea - especially alcohol at her age. she could get into much trouble because of that. and a police record is the last thing a young teenager needs.
2006-08-28 00:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's very common. I personally know, and have counseled a lot of troubled teens. I've heard of grown people doing this, usually males over 17. Never a 13 year old girl. When is this happening? And where are your daughter's friend's parents while this is happening? Sounds more like a cry for attention than young girls having a problem with the "sauce".
2006-09-03 19:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it seems to be common these days. There's no system of punishment nowadays for kids who do things like this, and they really can get away with almost anything. Be careful if your daughter's friends are doing this, as if she's hanging around with people like this, it may only be a matter of time before she does the same due to peer pressure etc. I think kids that do things like this should really be taught a lesson and made to understand that this cannot happen. I blame the parents too though in most cases, as discipline seems to be a thing of the past. I'm only 30, but i can still remember being absolutely terrified of my mum and wouldn't have dared to step out of line.
2006-08-27 23:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting drunk is part of growing up its ok to a degree say a one off but continuously getting drunk is not right there is a saying drink in wit out and at the tender young age of 13 they are easily led it can be a downward spiral to sex and drugs and as for stealing that is a strict no no. I would encourage your daughters to keep a wide berth from that sort of person Good luck its hard work with teenagers of both sexes
2006-09-03 03:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by scott j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of kids who've done it, I know a lot more who don't, and I knew kids that were doing that when I was 13, 16 years ago, I was a little clepto at the shop, but I would never have tought of stealing alcohol, mostly because I had a lot of family and there was always some way of getting alcohol without the risk of getting caught doing something illegal. I always drank in front of my mother, she didn't approve, but she could controle it, now I'm tee-totel.
2006-09-04 03:53:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they are stealing alcoholic beverages as well as many other items.
It's called a "beer run."
The stores have cat walks and undercover security officers that arrest the patron for shoplifting.
The police are called. Encourage your daughter to choose new friends.
2006-08-27 23:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by rosesbloom7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 15 year old daughter did the same thing 6 months ago. I did not get angry I let her see how disappointed I was in her I went to the shop and apologised and they didnt press charges. I explained to her that her actions had made me look like a bad mother and that the people in the shop who looked on her as a nice person now classed her as a thief. After thinking it over she felt bad about the whole thing and went and apologised herself and is now allowed back in the shop. I didnt shout and scream at her just let her think about her actions and it seemed to work.
2006-09-02 09:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by jean m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is now almost 16 and if your daughter is doing these kind of things at 13 you really need to get it under control. Don't let one more night of sleep go until she is sat down and made understood of what is going to start happening to her world. Don't stop at that follow through with a plan. She needs constant parenting over the next couple of years or maybe longer till you know it is under control. I would hate to see her go down that road and her life be meaningless.
2006-08-27 23:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by sonsweeney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my era (I'm now 30) we used to get up to this sort of thing at about age 15 and up, but we used to nick the drink out of our parents stash (not the supermarket) or get our big sisters to get it for us.
13 is a bit young...
2006-08-27 23:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋