The person i love is married aged 32 wife also 32 love marriage but no children as she is suffering from diabetes from past 26 yrs. he loves her very much as well as me wants to marry me, im also married but seperated, he knows about this and we love each other very much but he is not ready to inform his wife about our relation as he is afraid and is telling lets inform after getting one kid. Please give me suggestions what should i do whether to marry him or not, whether to believe him or not.
2006-08-27 22:55:51 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Today, he loves his wife, and is willing to dump her for you...
Tomorrow, he loves you, and is willing to dump you for another woman..
:-)
2006-08-27 22:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Andreba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves his wife very much, but wants to marry you? That is very conflicting. You can start believing he wants to marry you when he leaves his wife. I dont know if I am understanding what you are saying. Does he want you to have a baby, then inform his wife? He sounds a little nuts to me. It is a very cruel thing he is doing to his wife, or maybe he has no intentions of leaving her. It is a very odd situation indeed. I dont understand the significance of diabetes and child birth.....It should not stop her from getting pregnant, so there may be other issues. There is also the IVF program. I think there is more to this situation than you are aware of. How long have you known this man? I think you need to ask a lot more questions before you even think he is serious.
2006-08-27 23:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in no ways should you marry this person, cause he is just cheating you as well as his wife, no man can love 2 person at the same time. it is just to get you impressed that he says he loves u both at the same time.
if you are separated from ur husband that does not mean that he should also separate from his wife. the best thing you can do is to test him by saying that you have to tell your wife, and u should see his reaction, if he says no still, then ask him to divorce his wife 1st then then u too can get married, and stay happily ever after. if it was a love marriage for ur boyfriend then surely he would have known that she is not going to conceive, if he knew that before then 1st place he should not have got married, and if married then now is not the time to leave her at any cost, because love is first and then the kids comes in picture, as remember that u need your partner more then ur kids in your older age than now.
so it is a NO NO Please
2006-08-28 01:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by bridgetmaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you really shouldnt even think about getting married right now. He hasnt even told his wife about you. I honestly think that he will never leave his wife he loves her more then you and he is just going to use you to give him a child because his wife cannot. I really think, once you have the child, he will try fight you for custody of him based on the fact that he is married, and has a stable home while you would be a single mother. Perhaps the wife actually knows about you. Maybe they both want a baby really badly. Badly enough to use you.
2006-08-27 23:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by niransmami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot marry you as per law.
You will become his mistress and you will have no rights on him on any matter. After some time he may just leave you.
You children with this connection face lot of problems.
He has to take consent of his wife in writing and get permission of a Court of Law giving documentary proof about the health of his wife by Medical experts.
Ask him to get Legal permission to marry you, then no problem.
2006-08-28 07:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying again for the sake of getting kids is just a words to fool u and make u belive him. If he loves his wife very much and can't live without her, but needs kids also, then why to marry u, just go to an orphen home and adopt one. Its very easy and several people doing this.In my openion he is just making u fool, and cant give u ur status, u will always be a stepany for him. would u like to be a stepany. think over it and say him GOOD BYE. As u are divorcee look for some other who is singal.Just register ur profile on my site, its tottally free.....
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2006-08-28 01:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ashok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should read your own question. He loves his wife but wants to marry you? Does that make any kind of sense to you? he just wants a little loving on the side. He will never divorce his wife, especially if he loves her. Open your eyes and walk away from this phony. He's playing you.
2006-08-27 23:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he wants children, and only wants you if you can have them. That is probably the real reason he wants to wait for you to have a child first.
If he has feelings for his wife, and he does not want to continue to be with her, then it would be much better for her if he ends their relationship now....He should NOT wait until he has a child with you!! That is not fair to her!
If I were you I would get him to make a choice NOW. Either he leaves her and continues the relationship with you, OR stays with his wife and stops messing around with other women.
Either way, he will never be a man who you can trust. If he can cheat on his current wife, he will cheat on you if you marry him!!
2006-08-27 23:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Copper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all he wants is a kid. I really dont beleive that he will leave his wife for you if so he would do so now. Also he needs to get a divorce as well as you before you get married.
2006-08-27 23:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by charlesp54 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let his wife know about this and get married! I would not advise anyone to get married to a person who has a living wife without her consent.
2006-08-27 23:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by jk s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can marry him just to support him in his life and by doing this scarifies your love will be more greater than his first wife. The marriage should also be with the consent of his first wife.
2006-08-27 23:03:31 · answer #11 · answered by eitemad_eitemad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋