emotionally Abusive Realtionship?

Question

Can anyone please describe what the above is?

Answer 1

When someone belittles you and says things that hurt you constantly in order to make you feel small, this is emotionally abusive. Hearing negative things over and over really damages your self esteem and image of yourself.

Answer 2

Most times the person who is abusive is a control freak and needs to feel absolute power over the other person. Mostly they do noteven realise they are a control freak and bully.

Point this out to abuser that he is a control freak and that ou are entitled to your opinions and ideas. However if you fear recrimination from speaking out then don't, but do go and book yourself on an assertiveness course where you will be trained to take control of your own life. Oft times an abuser will take advantage of a person if they're not assertive, then they walk all over them so to speak.

However, if the person is not only mentally and verbally abusive, but physically abusive then get out of that relationship as the only road it can lead to is the road of disaster. Even if you have children you will always find someone who is willing to listen and give you the support you need.


I don't know if you are in this sort of abusive relationship but if you are, I wish you well and hope you will find a way out of a what can only be a miserable existence.

Edit: I was in this sort of realtionship (but not physically abusive)and it was not until I was diagnosed with depression that I relaised what the problem was.

It did not end our relationship but it did make my partner realise what a swine he had been. We still have our moments, but in general things are working out well. If he starts his nonsense again I am always quick to point out that he is behaviour is unacceptableand he soon thinks twice about his actions.

Answer 3

Emotional is where it hurts somebodys feelings and abuse is where you are hurting somebody in some form so think about it.....

When somebody is emotionally hurting somebody they are abusing them-where verbal abuse or physical abuse or even sexual abuse is damaging the heart of a person or animal.

This can scar the person and effect the personality, the way the express themselves to others the way they generally live.

I once heard a story of a lady in her 60s.
This woman had gone for help because she was sexually abused as a child.
This woman had kept silent and lived through 3 divorces because of this hidden torment and couldn't live any longer with the scars of so many years before.
How sad, a whole life destroyed because of abuse, and so many years wasted living in somebody elses world-the abusers-never escaping the torture they created, yet dragged through this womans whole life.

Abuse damages....
It can also have a negative effect where it creates abusers...
I lived in an abusive marriage, too scared to escape it for far too long and seen the negative effects that verbal and emotional abuse has had on my children...the way they treat people
My mistake was never escaping it before-ignorance is bliss though isn't it and I was ignorant for far too long

Answer 4

any relationship where you are unable to be yourself for fear of intimidation.
Verbal and physical abuse often come later but in the beginning it can simply be him or her telling you that you've got it wrong or they'll do it for you. Gradually eroding your confidence. You begin to think you can't do stuff for yourself or what you think isn't right, the abuser will promote this. They will make you think they are caring for you and looking after you.
After a while it's insults and asking who would have you if you split with them.
Voilence and verbal abuse kick in and you end up feeling like pooh.
If you recognise any of this get out now.
Take care of yourself you are worth more.

Answer 5

When your partner puts you down all the time makes you feel lw and worthless.
If someone is doing that to you please try and have the strength to leave them. I girlfriend ex did that and also beat her up a lot. She now finds it hard to recieve praise from me but I try my best to build her up and encourge her as much as I can. It's a slow process but together we will get there.
Please get out of the relationship if you are being abused.
Bless you. x

Answer 6

Anyone who messes with your head. My ex used to tell me all manner of lies, and when I used to challenge him, he would tell me it was all in my head and I was paranoid and needed to see a psychiatrist to deal with my 'issues'.

It made me question myself a lot and made me think that maybe it was all in my head. I didn't know if I was coming or going, I didn't trust him, myself or anyone else!

He used to shout at me and tell me no-one would ever want to go out with me. Every time we had a row, he would pack his bags and threaten to leave me or just walk out.

That is emotional abuse I'd say!

Answer 7

it's when your partner wants or makes you do things you abhor, like forcing you to rude sex if you don't enjoy it, or keeping on calling you names you hate, or brushing their teeth with your brush. Reducing you to tears. Kicking your dog. tearing up your favourite books. telling you to quit your job. Cutting you down to size in any way. A relationship involving any kind of violence over one of partners, or both. Not necessarily physical violence.
Or simply when their snoring wakes you up ;)

Answer 8

Verbal put downs, disrespect, abuse, get out fast if it happens to you.

Answer 9

Basically bullying

Answer 10

When someone constantly demoralises you, forever making you feel bad about yourself.