are gay men stuck in world where wives and children are required to be successful?

Answer 1

Why would wives and children be required for a gay man to be successful? There's plenty of straight guys and girls who are single with no children and are successful.

Any men who are gay and fakes a relationship with a women and make her his wife and has children with her with beliefs of having a successful life is in denial, and a coward.

Answer 2

Yes, just as gay women are stuck in a world where husbands and children are required to be successful.

Answer 3

I think that might have been true 30, maybe even 20 years ago, but today, as men and women alike are staying single longer, and sometimes staying single for lots of reasons, I don't think it is as big a deal as it once was.

The dinner party thing is a tough one though. Come alone? Or bring a beard? Some situations today would allow a gay man to bring another man, but usually only if he's in a relationship. It is still appropriate for a single woman to bring an escort that she digs up someplace, but a single man, even where gayness is corporately acceptable, probably can't get away with just bringing a guy he's recently met and thought would be an interesting date. To that extent, being heterosexually married would solve the dinner party isse.

Answer 4

Where on earth do you live? We are quite successful thank you -- we are considering a child or two, via surrogate mothering probably, but maybe adopted - but that's because we want children, not due to the thought that it might make us more "successful." We have pictures of us together on both of our desks at our different jobs -- and are fully included by both workplaces in events to which spouses are invited. Jonathan is covered by my health, dental, vision and life insurance, and our sexuality would never be considered, in either case, as deserving even a moment's thought in regard to promotion at either job. I've worked for the same University for 13 years, and he has worked at the same company for 6.

50 years ago, gay men were stuck in a world such as you describe, and we all know the results of that -- millions of "fake" marriages -- men living out unhappy lives married to women they could never love -- even as they loved their children. Furtive lives of hidden sex with other males -- who were also married and hiding in the closet.That time is past, for those who will let it be; it is no longer necessary for success or acceptance, except in the mind of those who are still brainwashed by a dying system of belief and culture.

No, gay men live in a larger world, where everyone can succeed, and hopefully we draw a larger circle to take in those who would draw a smaller circle to keep us out.

Kind regards,

Reynolds
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Answer 5

I'm going to view this as an opinion question, and say no. I know plenty of gay men who are their own people, men who are comfortable with themselves and really don't care how the world views them. Many men and woman choose to remain single, or to have partners yet stay unmarried, and I don't believe those decisions affect their chances of success in the least.

Answer 6

I've got a friend who's a successful lawyer, and as part of his profession attends dinner parties and such in order to network. He is gay, but also expected to bring a date or wife with him. Since he doesn't like to make an issue out of his sexuality (he's not in the closet, just thinks his private life isn't the business of his clients) I usually go with him to stop people wondering why he always shows up alone. I've met several other people at these events who are doing the same thing for one reason or another, and I always think it would be simpler if people didn't make such a big issue out of private affairs.

Answer 7

Hello!! :o) YES - I think that in SOME professions - that's true. But only because some companies are still run by the 'old boys' who equate having a wife and kids with stability. It's always important - I think - to clearly define for ourselves exactly what 'success' means. If it only means 'making lots of money' then I guess most 'crack whores' are 'successful members of society'. [See what I mean?!] To me - a successful person is one who contributes to society while maintaining his or her integrity. Craig!! :o)

Answer 8

I guess you are living in some strange out of the way village somewhere... this hasn't been true for gays or straights for the last 30 years!

Answer 9

No. You can be gay and very successful. You don't need to have a wife, kids and a white picket fence to be happy my friend

Answer 10

Sometimes, but we are definitely stuck in a world where we have to put up with str8 peoples nasty, rude badly brought up children.