2006-08-27 21:59:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well speaking from a girl that is in a 2nd marriage I would say one that is based on truth, friendship and passion. One that is willing to work out any issues or problems. Also never get married to settle or be taken care of financially. Find one that is based on true love and happiness.
Hugs - Mel (Loving Memory of our son, our angel Zachary Aug 4, 2006)
2006-08-27 22:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage was one that I was expected, in that we had been going out together for a while, then it was when are you going to get engaged and I just got caught up in something that I could not get out of and ended up marrying him, knowing that I was not in love with him but thought I cared about him and that was enough, it wasn't. I got out and met my now husband and the difference of marrying and being with someone that you are totally in love with is just the best feeling. We share so much, we talk, we have the same likes and dislikes, hot passion and we talk which is the most important thing. We have children and we always make time for us, by going out just the two of us for a meal and drink maybe one a week or fortnight. Mostly talk to each other, and keep that passion alive, don't stop giving each other cuddles and kisses and be at one with each other and relaxed. I believe in fate and if I hadn't married my first husband and gone through that, I may not have met my sole mate. Good Luck, marry only for right reason, for you and not because it is expected, marry for love and enjoy yourselves.
2006-08-28 07:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by radiant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married for the second time in 8 weeks time. I want a very different husband from my first one that is why I have fouhd someone with qualities that I want in a man. My first husband spent all his spare time either at the pub or watching sport. He didn't spend time with his 3 kids either. When he was at home he argued with everyone and if we went out for dinner or with friends, after the 2nd drink he would disagree with everything anyone said. My new husband to be is my best fiend and we spend all our spare time together either with or without friends around. He is great to my kids and if he drinks he doesn't turn into a raving lunatic. In other words the OPPOSITE to husband no 1!
2006-08-28 05:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage there are no expectations, just go headlong knowing that your gonna give heart and make it work, remember whn you have high expectations and something falls short, u get dissapointed and the frustration sets in so patience and understanding and love is how u look at it.
2006-08-28 05:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see what I would need to do better and not expect anything.
Always assume the divorce was your fault and figure out what your problems were and fix them or they'll arise in the next marriage too. That's a promise.
2006-08-28 05:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been down that road a cpl times,,honesty, compassion specially when theres kids involved,,2nd and third marriages always carry baggage from the first
just talk to your future spouse the more open and honest you are with them they will be with you,,dont rush into marriage because someones presuring you to get married,, the longer you know someone the better you know them
2006-08-28 05:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont need much.........trust, honesty, respect, love, romance, passion, compassion, friendship, conversation, affection, sharing everything (not just material things), hopes, dreams, etc etc take care of each other and there needs, spending time with each other, enjoying each others company, hobbies, likes, dislikes, a sole mate.
Someone to open doors, be a gentleman and just BE there. Put his wife and family first get his priorities right. I would want to be no1 in his eyes and he would be no1 in mine.
Is that enough to START with ???
2006-08-28 05:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Caro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ı AM married for the second time and its fantastic, i have never been happier, he treats me with love and respect and i truely adore him, he makes me feel like a queen , i have a daughter and he makes her feel like a princess, we are so happy i just hope he is just as happy....
You get to know what you want the second time, ı guess experience helps in everything..
what we all want in a partner (1st or 2nd) is love, devotion, and respect, always supportive in whatever one does and most of all standing by you. i am soo lucky........thanks babe!!!
2006-08-28 05:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by miss poem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am engaged to be married for the 2nd time & my feelings are completely different. I can actually see myself getting old with my partner ! i feel secure in how he feels about me & dont need to question him about it. Each part of this relationship is different to before.
2006-08-28 05:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by justine m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my second marriage and I wanted my new husband to love me more than my first one did. I wanted him not to hurt me and to trust and respect me. We have a solid relationship and talk regularly about what we want and wish for in each other.
2006-08-29 09:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by paradisefound1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋