I am a man who grew up without parents. I didnt have any love or careness from any body. Now I'm married and I have Kid. But still I feel an emptyness in my mind. I dont know why is this happening to me. I am a modern thinker (Post Modernism) and people around me dosent think like me. Is that the reason that I feel like a kid lost in jungle....... I want to tell some one that how I feel like. but no one there to listen to me. One day I found a girl friend that I thought she would listen to me and I thought shes a my kind of person. I told every thing in my mind to her, I told her that I need attention of some one and, love and careness (pls this is not sex). But finaly she turned around from me and insulted me. she played with my emotions. what should I do?
2006-08-27 21:44:35 · 18 answers · asked by no1_2me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel sorry for you dear friend. Believe god he is the one who loves you. He never plays with anyone but only humans do.
1 day u will find someone to care u, might be your own kid.
2006-08-27 22:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Aakash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.
Seriously I would recommend you see a Psychotherapist,
it does not sound as if there is anything inherently 'wrong'
with you but in seeing someone like a therapist, preferably
trained in the way of relational working, they could help in
your struggles.
They could not provide a cure but if you are open and willing
to do the work with them you may find some peace in being
able to express without fear of judgement all the emotions
that you have been unable to as yet do, their may be some restorative experiences available in such a reletionship as well.
This, I feel all comes from the lack of appropriate care and love
in you childhood, as you say it still affects you, seek out the help
above, it may take time to find the right therapist for you, so dont
give up if the first one is not what you need, keep at it.
Good Luck and mail me if you want more info ...
Go Well.
.
2006-08-27 21:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should cut off all connections with her.
What i dont understand is why people expect guys to be tough? Guys have feelings, but they're just better at concealing it. I hate women who bash up guy's egos.Those shallow ppl love hurting others, so don't go to them.
If you feel empty, you should find someone to talk to, preferably a councellor.I'm not saying that you have a mental problem, but trust me, councellers lend a good hearing ear.You dont deserve to feel like that, so you need to get to the nitty gritty and get the problem fixed.
Hope all goes well, and "God Bless."
2006-08-27 21:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Bunnyz C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the emptyness inside you is your birth parents. You should try to find them, and maybe that will fix your problem. I also think that the reason that girl turned you down is becuase it was so hard to help someone like you and she just doesn't understand you. I hope i helped a little.
2006-08-27 21:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find your parents if you can, and also discuss your feelings with your wife. She is the person who has accepted you in her life and she should be the one supporting you in such situation. Most probably she feels the emptiness in you but cannot help you in anyway because she does not know what's on your mind.
Make sure you seek help in this situation as it might reflect in your son too. You grew up without parents physically, but such a problem can effect your son's developing feelings too!
2006-08-27 22:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to get some counseling... join a group... when you say you found a little girlfriend... is this while you are married?? and how little is little. you obviously need to learn how to give love because trust me... your child should bring so much happiness. and you dont want your child to feel the same way you do right...
seek therapy... everybody could use a good therapist
2006-08-27 21:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always listen and never turn away.
You missed out on touch and love, which is so important in our emotional development. You have some making up to do.
Work on the touch part. With your family and your wife.
We all have the empty hole....that is fillled by our creator.
2006-08-27 21:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l no very well how u feel. since the day l was born even one day never stayed with my parent.they decided to separete when l was not even born.so the sister to my mother is the one who took care of me. when l was growing up nobody gave me attention. nobody seems to care wht l was doing.even now am 22 l feel lost everybody they don't understand.am sorry l can't be able to help you cause as for me l don't even no what to do.
2006-08-27 22:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by holy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget your pass girlfriend forget everyone since you did not get the love and careness and attention from people that was before now is now you got to stop concentrating on your pass and give your wife and kid the attention you never had.
2006-08-27 21:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should find ur family maybe that would help u feel better. ur girlfriend cant understand if she grew up with her parents and their probably still together. honey u have to fix u before u can fix ur relationship. sorry that is how it works. good luck!
2006-08-27 21:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋