I have a bf who ia have been with for 2 years already and who is into pc games 24/7. He play the pc so long that he sometimes call me only at night! Am i overreacting? Because of this matter, i somehow feel confused whether he really loves me or not. And another reason is his laziness to work, I'm sick and tired of paying my share or paying both of our share to watch movies or eat. I told him if he could work but he would tell me that his big brother will ask him money and all that's why he doesn’t want to work. And now he is schooling but he is just wasting his time there because he is not interested in it. I told him he should study hard so that he could get a good job but he thought i'm looking down on him. And when it comes to birthdays, i always get disapointed because i'll get cheap presents, his reasons no money. I'm not tryin to be mean or anything but i just felt that he is not putting effort to the relationship. I just want to feel when he say he loves me, i know he meant it.
2006-08-27 21:16:12 · 11 answers · asked by Faradoves 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In any relationship, there is no such thing as fairness it doesn't mean how much you love him, he will love you as much too. You are not wrong to have such feeling as you have tell him how you feel but yr bf doesn't take any action as yet. I assume that he is in teenage group as you mentioned he is still schooling. I think he is still not mature in his thinking yet and I hope he can be more mature when he is out of school and step into the working society coz by then he have to learn to fend everything himself. So give him and yourself sometime before making the decision
2006-08-28 00:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is old enough to be in college and have a job, he should not be so into games and no interest in work. He needs to be a man and get with the program. Playing games is not going to pay the bills or get him a good job. He might claim to love you but what it sounds like he really loves is having someone there to pay for his stuff, and playing like a child. Find a real man, they are out there. Without somebody to buy his stuff and excuses, he'll have to grow up eventually. Everybody needs to do that sometime. Don't settle for this crap, saying he doesn't get a job because his brother will ask for $. Has he ever heard of saying "no?" Good luck to you on your search for a hard working man that will make all your dreams come true!!!
2006-08-28 04:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by wow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl... u really need to talk to this guy. you cant continue with someone who will sit idle and depend on you for money. But nonetheless, guys play PC games 24/7 irrespective of their love. so dont feel he does not love you because he is stuck to his PC, or is lazy.. guys are born just that way ..trust me. something good to look upon here is u get a present on ur bday ...though a cheap one. atleast he dint forget ur bday dear, so cheer up and talk to him about the work issue.
all the best
2006-08-28 04:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by paula_M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if you want a man to tell you he loves you and means it, then find a man and not a little boy ~ dump loser boy before you can say the word BOO... he's just going to have one excuse after another the longer you are with him and you are going to lose yourself as long as you stay in this situation -- and if he won't leave, then you run not walk as far away from him as you can possibly go! Nobody deserves that sort of crap!
2006-08-28 04:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the loser he doesn't care about anyone but himself. This is not the guy you want to marry or raise children with so don't be stupid. You know you are seeing red flags all over the place but you want to know does he love you the way you love him. NO he doesn't so move on and you will be happier too.
2006-08-28 04:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is understanding
Love is patience
Love is sacrifation
Seems to me that your bf doesn't do al that 3 love criteria
He is not loves u, he only needs u
2006-08-28 04:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by rachmadi78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl are you hard up for him. He obviously does not feel for you. Dump him and get yourself a real man.
2006-08-28 04:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. you deserve everything that you have sacrificed for him. A good men doesn't need to be told, like working hard.
2006-08-28 04:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him or tell him to pick between the game and you or give him something to take his mind off the game f***ing
2006-08-28 04:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new man.
2006-08-28 04:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by UltimateKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋