so i kissed that other guy yesterday and my boyfriend calls me (he's been overseas for a while) and he's like 'What's wrong?' no matter how hard I tried I just couldn't hide that somethings wrong I didn't tell him, I kissed the other guy being totaly hammered, I don't even remmber him. So should I tell my bf or not?
2006-08-27 21:07:55 · 33 answers · asked by Mag 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you want to be honest then you should because you would only be living a lie if you didnt tell him.
2006-08-27 21:09:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being hammered is no excuse, but telling him now may jeopardize his performance overseas (unable to concentrate on staying alive.) Think about what you really want out of this relationship. It's a scary world out there and being hammered makes you vulnerable to a lot of wicked situations. You are on the very edge now with only a kiss, but it's really easy to fall over the edge fast. If your bf means the world to you, examine your own lifestyle, don't tell him, and make your improvements while you are waiting for him to come home safely to you. Then when he's home, the two of you go together and he'll keep you safe. Take care. Stay safe, don't get hammered again until he comes home to protect you.
2006-08-27 21:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by wow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him while he is gone. Just act like everything is fine right now, and in the mean time, you really need to think about things. Now, you guys aren't married, so, if you think you would be happier with someone else, then now is the time to decide that. Chances are, you are probably just lonely and missing your bf. Don't let that happen again. If you can't handle your alcohol better than that, then don't drink. When your boyfriend gets back, wait about a week to catch up on everything, then tell him. But, it was just a kiss, so let him know that. Also let him know the situation and that you haven't had a drink since that happened. But don't tell him while he is overseas. That is just going to affect his job performance and may get him killed. Good luck.
2006-08-27 21:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure about this. It was a brief moment. And I hope you don't let it ever happen again.
Your guy is lonely and in a dangerous place. He needs your love and support.
Not sure if all that goes on in our mind needs to be told.
I would not tell him. And meanwhile don't get totally hammered. Pleaseeeeeeeeeee
I think your guilt is bigger than the brief kiss. I think the hurt it will cause your man will be worse than not telling him. Otherwise he will be obcessed with losing you and make his time away horrible. Be kind and consider it a drunken mistake that shouldn't ever happen again.
If he asks what was wrong, told him you got hammered and it didn't set will with you and you aren't going to let it happen again.
A kiss with a hammered stranger isn't worth messing up your guy while he is away.
2006-08-27 21:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cause him the unnecessary stress. No one is perfect. It was harmless and you must let it pass and forget about it. There is absolutely no reason to tell your bf. What purpose would it serve? Let the guilt go for your reactions will be displayed to him and that would be just as bad as you telling him.
I am not subscribing being dishonest. That is not what this is all about. You are using good common sense. He would be hurt and feel deceived over nothing.
Which do you think is best?
2006-08-27 21:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most would say don't. But when your bf does come back and you kept your little secert, someone is bound to tell him. Be like, "Oh I seen mindy or whatever your name is at some party kissing on some guy while you were gone." Now how do you think that would make him feel and look when he realized you weren't woman enough to tell him, yourself? I know he may be mad as hell, but at least he should give you props for telling him yourself.
2006-08-27 21:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! unless you think your going to leave him for the other guy. Hell he's probably having his own little fun,those over seas chicks are pretty easy and cheap at the bars.I used to live in the Philippines, I know! Have you ever seen "Good Morning Vietnam"? same thing.Long distance relationships rarely survive so if you feel it's necessary,break up with each other until your in each others arms again.
2006-08-27 21:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by blondearies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was a goodnight kiss after the guy brought you home from a club? Hemm...being a guy I would want to know, yet if it was my next question would be why was he bringing you home, and why were you not with friends? Yet if this was someone you met and spent some time with dancing and it was a casual good night peck. Cool, I wouldn't care. As long as no phone #'s were exchanged. :-)
2006-08-27 21:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nedan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is overseas for a while. You kissed someone. Okay he should know when he is back. Write it down in a note and date it and when he is back you can explain. He is far away and he cant do anything or say anything to you face to face. If it stays a kiss shut up and don't say anything till he is back
2006-08-27 21:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always key and something I have learned from experience - truth always comes out. Its better to be heard from you. If he loves you, then its just a little bump in the road that can be worked out.
Hugs Mel - Loving Memory of my son, our angel Zachary Aug 2, 2006
2006-08-27 21:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's overseas fighting for his country and you're doing this to him? what the hell's wrong with you? It's hard enough for him to be away from home, his family, his friends his gf but now you do this to him? That's bad!
Trust me....I did it....Quit now. If you love him, leave the other guy. You'll regret if you don't!
2006-08-27 21:13:20 · answer #11 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋