I have known people who are about to get married or who are just married to dump longtime friends, at the drop of a hat. Why don't they try to incorporate friends into their new lives? Why were we so important to them before and not now?
2006-08-27 20:50:07 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well it really sounds like you have some shitty sounding friends. But I know ppl that do that when they are just dating too. I have many a gf drop me and our other friends because some new guy came along and they instantly had "couple" friends. I think ppl as they advance in their life always want ppl to be like them. Like when you are single, and acting wild, you want single, wild acting friends to party with all the time. But when you have a guy or a girl you always want to find those special "couple" friends to do double dates and things. Same way with married ppl, they want to find "married" friends to take trips with and stuff. But I still think if your friends or even any ones friends were really "true" then they would totally not drop you at all, would help you spend time meeting the husband's friends and stuff like that so you all can be happy and date and things. Thats how I think it should be.
2006-08-27 21:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do I put this nicely???
I doubt that anyone is purposely throwing their friends to the wayside. When you get married, your really need to focus on your spouse. You don't have the time, nor should you make the time, to spend hours upon hours with your friends.
If you want to make your marriage work, your main focus should be on your lover. Your spouse needs to be the one filling your love tank. Your lover needs to be the one who lifts you up and you need to do the same for them. You can still have your friends, just they fit into a different category now.
It's not fair to ask your friends to chose between their husband/wife and you. It would be interesting to see what happens when YOU are in THEIR position.
2006-08-28 08:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you on that...I had a male best friend, we knew each other since we were born and he's married and I talk to him maybe once every few months. But whenever he's having problems with his wife he wants to be my friend again and that's just plain flaky to me.....people need to just keep it real.
2006-08-28 04:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by K G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right. I have friends who stopped contacting me or uncontactable after they're married. all their time is given to hubby.
2006-08-28 03:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by PunkGreen1829 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋