He has been so sweet to me..so caring..but i don't know if he feels the same way...well, he had just broke up with his gf b'coz he was cheated..and now, he's startin' over again...i just wanted to tell him how i feel but it seems it won't work...needs advice please!..thanks
2006-08-27 20:48:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I would suggest this is the time to give him your fullest moral support, since he had just broken up. let him mend his broken heart. at this present point of time he will be reminiscing his past with his girlfren, he might discuss with you certain things, just listen, give him the listening ear, patience, do not rub it in. your understanding in this is very crucial to him at this point of time. after maybe a few weeks later, you might want to drop him a hint of your liking. invite him out, make him feel special, and when the time is right, tell him ur feelings. even if his reply is negative, do not be angry with him, he may not be ready, he may not take it if he wud be cheated again, but do not treat him anything lesser than how you treated him before. play it safe, and be sincere in your actions, cos its you that he is going to love, not your 'drama' when you were his bestfriend. All the best and GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-27 23:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by CuriosCAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U R fallen in love, then he's the lover now, not just the friend, best or whatever. It seems to me too that your telling him won't work, since he's broken up with earlier someone, so he may not trust soon any other one. Let the love grow itself, wait for an appropriate time, let him propose or tell U that he loves U first, if he really does, he won't let U go, so B patience in the meantime. This's what I suggest in brief from yr descriptions & limited knowledge about U people. Just do not forget to let me know & keep in touch on My IM / 360, anytime if U feel like, for further communications. All the best.
2006-08-27 21:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how best to advise you, since I don't know you or your friend, but let me suggest you simply sit down and discuss this with him at such time as you are able to do so.
He may feel the same as you do. If he doesn't it would seem he could like you enough to be honest and caring and considerate of your feelings.
Friendship is a wonderful thing. If the two of you were to fall in love and marry and stay married 100 years the best gift you could give each other is your friendship and respect.
Trust me, if it isn't right for him it wouldn't be right for you either. I don't think it likely he would stop being your friend if you told him how you feel and he didn't share that feeling. But, were I in your situation, I would want to know where I stand, and that means asking.
Good luck and God's blessings to both of you. I wish when I was your age I'd had a best friend like you.
2006-08-27 21:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwwww! This reminds me of "My Best Friend's Wedding!" Bless you. Follow your heart sweetie. If it is meant for you both to be together then it will happen. Everything happens for a reason. If he just wants to be friends then the main thing is that he's still in your life. He must mean alot to you and you obviously mean alot to him. Go with what you feel inside but it won't be the end of the world if you're just friends because it takes alot to have a best male friend. That kind of relationship is very hard to find....but you'll be alright. We're all here to support you whatever happens. Take care and let us know how things go! xxx
2006-08-27 20:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by fairydust 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start getting intimate with him. send him signals. get touchy and feely. make him get sexual vibes from you. if he returns them, then that means he likes you and gets it. he'll start putting his game on you. if he starts pulling away or is just plain cold about it, then he's not interested.
just use this tactic until you've think you've reached the limit. be subtle, but obvious. just the right touch of sexual energy. don't go berserk or wildly obsessive. once you have a feeling he's freaked out about you coming on to him, that probably means he's freaked out cuz he just wants you as a friend. at that point, resort back to best friend status.
2006-08-27 21:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write Dear Abby.
2006-08-27 20:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it now!!!! Don't wait!!!! The exact same thing happened to me. I waited to long and now she's with someone else. The worst he can say is "can we just be friends?". But if you can't just be friends with him, then you've got a problem. You're gonna hurt so much if you don't tell him. So much worse than if you tell him and he rejects you.
2006-08-27 20:54:20 · answer #7 · answered by korines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he's single now, it's your chance....don't let it just slip away before everything is too late......collect your guts n' tell him what u feel but do not be aggressive.....be prepared for the shock,whether it's a good one or a bad one....give him some time to get over it.....he must be depressed.....in the meanwhile, comfort him n' care for him as he needs your company very much........it takes time to heel.....be patient.....all da best!!!!
2006-08-27 20:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Poise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually,when u reach the point where u r in love with ur bestfriend,most likely, ur bestfriend also in love with u. i suggest u discuss it indirectly,i mean dont tell him u r in love with him but ask him 'if'. then u can see the reaction,if u think its okay,u can tell him but if he didnt like the idea,i think better u go ahead with bestfriend coz if u tell him when he didnt like it,u may lose him. im sure u didnt want that happen,dear!
2006-08-27 20:58:16 · answer #9 · answered by pinky sakura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is tell him how you feel. You may be surprised to find out that he loves you too. Its worth the risk, isnt it?
2006-08-27 21:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋