Is leadership in the ORDAINED marriage a huge responsibility ?

Question

Men who does not want their responsibilities in their ordained lifetime marriages always will run away by getting a divorce or have an adultery affair with someone else than their soulmates who God gave them to have in the first place. A REAL man would give leadership in his ordained lifetime marriage and have fear of God. A real man would have a conscience , scruples and leadership.The sad part is my husband is in the group of men who has no scruples , no consciences , and could care less for leadership in their ordained marriages God gave them to have in the first place to live out until death. Men remember that if something goes wrong in your ordained relationship with your soulmate then the burden must fall on your shoulders because you ARE the head of your marriage and your family. It is a HUGE responsibility. Anyone is up to the challenge!My husband is NOT if he was he would still be with me.Don't be a coward & get a divorce. Take your responsibilities seriously like God does.

Remember commitment has cost. No one fells out from love , they fell out from commitment. Oh don't be a coward and get a divorce.

Answer 1

You are right June and I agree with you. You know what to do for your life and I can see you clearly. You are not afraid to stand up and lead your family so move on and I want you to know there are so many men who do not marry and waiting for you so give yourself time and Emery to look and fine the good one if you think you need one,In my opinion, You are strong and You can stand tall alone.

Answer 2

Conflict or anger itself does not have to cause an irreparable rift between partners. With good communication skills and a shared commitment to a marriage, even these are surmountable. How to save your marriage https://tr.im/7ELB5

However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?

You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.

Answer 3

You have problems. Was your husband this way before marriage or did the problems arise after the ceremony? Obviously, he isn't concerned about his responsibility to you and his marriage. You cannot make him accept his responsibilities only he can decide to do that. You have to decide if you can live with the situation and what are the prospects for him changing. Whether God arranged the marriage or not is subjective, can you live with the status quo?

Answer 4

You talk about this man being your soul mate. Obviously you were not his soul mate if he chose to leave you. There are two sides to every story. Maybe your expectations of him were too high. Maybe your view of religion is what drove him away. Maybe you were more interested in God than you were in him.

I have seen some terrible things happen in marriages where one or both parties are too involved with religious beliefs. The relationship is about two people and two peoples needs. But the third party....God and the Scriptures has the last say. It seems being human with the ability to make mistakes in a religious marriage is forgotten and you expect your man to be some kind of martyre.

You probably went overboard in your religious exectations of the role your husband was supposed to play according to your interpretation of the Bible. You were probably more interested in in his role than you were in him as a man.

God gave us a free Will, he gave us the ability to think logically. A lot of religious people have lost that ability and follow blindly what their priest or pastor has shoved down their throat. I think God would be so angry at many of our religous leaders because they get their power by preaching the Wrath of God.

My friend has a mother who is religious....her view point was the only view point...no one else had a brain.....everyone had to abide by her interpretation of what she thought God expected from Husbands. He has been married for 34 years to a woman he has never loved but did what his mother expected when this woman became pregnant. He feels so responsible for this woman and his role as a husband. He has a plan of action to get out of this marriage, and its not leaving her to get a divorce...it is hurrying up the death process, so as his pain will cease, but the role he has played will stay in tact. That is what religious beliefs have done to him.

Religion in the hands of a person who hasnt the ability to think logically is a very dangerous thing. I think you have lost that ability and are forgetting that we live in an imperfect world. God is a God of love and he understands the trials and tribulations we have to endure every single day. Your viewpoint is way over the top and is probably the reason your husband left you. Lighten up a bit, and maybe you will find your true soul mate.

Answer 5

I stayes 26 years in an abusive marriage with a man who lied and con ed people.

I stayed because I THOUGHT he was a Godly man.

The betrayal is mind boggling.

There are still a few good men out there. I am looking for one.

Answer 6

Very true, June. Amen.

Answer 7

This is such BS. Just live your life and be happy and stop being so sanctimonious.

Answer 8

right you are,but some men could be repaired.They are big children.