I am married. For decades. So is she. Both having grown up children . We are both 40+ matured sensible,responsible man & woman. I love my wife. She loves her husband. Yet, we love each other too. Find solace, feel windows of mind & soul open up with each other. Love this journey. Should we look forward to any destination?
2006-08-27 20:41:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
love is a beautiful journey, anyone who hasn't undertaken this journey leads a very incomplete life. but destination is such a final word, it means u aren't looking for anything beyond. see the journey of two river banks or even railway tracks, they are running together side by side endlessly & in harmony. if these look for a destination together there will be disaster beyond repair. many lives will be lost & will leave just an aftermath of unhappiness.
u say u love eachother, find solace, feel windows of mind & soul open up with eachother, then why look at a destination. just enjoy what both of u share. few are blessed this way. make sure u dont hurt your other loved ones. causing unhappiness to others so u can share your moments of happiness together will never bring u peace from within.
all the very best to both of u.
2006-08-28 00:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by chokamona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to work on your own marriages .. seek counseling. It will be wrong and cause huge emotional turmoil if you both pursue anything before your relationships with your marriages have not ended. If you think its true love with each other and not the person you married, then it can wait until the moment you are both divorced. Because truthfully in the end, that is really the only time you should be available to pursue a future together.
Hugs Mel - Loving Memory of my son, our angel Zachary Aug 2, 2006
2006-08-27 20:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. I have no kids but have been married for five years. I'm in love with my wife but I also love another woman. She, too, is married with no kids, for about five years but she has an "open" relationship with her husband so, in her relationship it's ok for her to love me too. I've loved her for years and years but we drifted and attached to other people.
I'm not sure if you can look forward to anything more coming out of this relationship. It's a hard situation because it sounds like neither of you wants to leave your spouse. There's the potential of entering into an open-type relationship where you remain married but are able to maintain an honest (as opposed to hidden) relationship with this other woman. It's hard and scary to bring that up to your wife, I know. You need to ask yourself a couple of things, though. 1) Will you regret more NOT asking your wife than asking her? 2) Will you be ok if she wants a relationship with another man? After all, fair is fair.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-27 21:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by insecure alias 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you sound like your really in love...when your with a person for too long sometimes,you try to look beyond and find solace in other people.Very natural....enjoy the moment...see how it goes...if at any time your need to be with your new friend superseeds your need to be with your wife,make the decision to move out and live your life to the fullest. you said you loved your wife too...dont hurt her...she will be happier knowing you with someone you would rather spend the rest of your life with.Dont let her find out and let it get ugly...tell her what you want when you know what you want...sometimes it helps discussing feelings and emotions with your spouse before you make decisions...tell her about the way you feel for the other woman and then weigh your odd's...i would be completely honest with my spouse...
2006-08-27 20:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by heraamarantha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u said urself,sensible, responsible, then ur thoughts also will b. u loves ur wife, ur children, ur friends, and a lot others, then y cant there b a deep love for some one u feel special, not expecting any thing in return except love. let the fragrant breeze flow from one window to other...but silent,not hurting anyone u love.
2006-08-27 21:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by sathu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It exactly happened to me. I say it was wrong of me in committing adulterly and breaking my vows. It took me four years before we could manage to stop this relationship. Ofcourse it was not easy to do as our love had gone so far. Since then my relationship with my wife was back to normal and living happily ever after. My advice to you is do as I did. I know it is easy to say but very difficult to do. You must do it if you really want to have a happy life with your husband. Remember you have made a vows, till death do us part. All the best to you.
2006-08-27 20:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything. Carry on what u r acting. There is no need to do any tnything beyound your legal life track because you have your loving wife and grown up children. So dont think so.
Cheers
2006-08-27 23:51:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sahil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...a complicated one...As far as it has no smell of ethereal selfishness, it is o.k.If you look for "destination", that looking will bring the relationship down to a day-to-day,mundane,very ordinary activity.
You two are really fortunate to find each other in arms... I envy you.
2006-08-27 20:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no destination to look foreward to if you both love your spouses . what it sounds like you are thinking will only hurt everyone in the long run
2006-08-27 20:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should watch KANK along with your grown-up children.Then you will judge correctly what to do..
I mean to say if its embarrassing even to look such concepts
on screen ,then how come you believe you have further destinations......
2006-08-27 21:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋