I am having a real hard time getting over my wife of five and a half years marriage. Does it ever get easier?
2006-08-27 20:10:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The good news is, yes it does. The bad news is, it can take you up to two years to fully get over it.
I've been through divorce myself and in some ways, it's worse than if you've been widowed. The reason is this. If your partner dies, then at least you know they didn't leave you on purpose. You will suffer terrible grief, but at least you know they loved you, and you have the good memories to sustain you.
When a partner leaves you, you experience the same grief, but as well as that, you feel you've been rejected. And all human beings have trouble coping with rejection. It may help if you can work out why she's left. Often it's not rejection at all: it may be that you were never right for each other in the first place, or that either you or she has grown up and changed. Or maybe she's just a shallow b%^&*?!
Google or Yahoo or get some books on coping with grief, they may help. Recognise that it's normal to be upset, to cry, to get angry. Don't beat yourself up about it.
And once you've had time to grieve a little, get yourself on to a dating website like RSVP. You may not feel ready to have a serious relationship, but just making a few dates to have a coffee with a woman will show you that you're not alone, and will get you out of the house.
It does get better. In a year, you may well look back and realise that it was for the best.
2006-08-27 20:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, At least it should. Sorry about the breakup of your marriage. There is no easy way. However, you can chose to ignore the hurt and disappointment by engaging in destructive behaviors i.e., women, partying, gambling etc., or you can do some self inventory. Discovering the part you played in the breakup of your marriage will put you on the road to recovery. Good luck.
2006-08-27 20:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at first, but you will get used to her not being around at some point. Take some time alone and get a hobby that will distract you from the lonliness. Its a great way to relax and meet new people.
2006-08-27 20:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is tough no matter what.
I was the one who left and nine years later it hurts. But less all the time.
Get yourself busy doing other things, meeting other people. Give your self time to grieve. it is a loss.
2006-08-27 20:27:19 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, ya just gotta get over it, that kind of stuff unfortunately does happen in life, there's nothing you probably could have done if she wanted it, There's other chicks out there, One that will want to be with you I'm sure, It can only get easier to deal with in time, you'll live
2006-08-27 20:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋