My fiance was raped by her boss at worked twice. She never did anything about it because she was scared by now the physical evidence is gone. I got her a new job and she just wants to put it in the past, but every time it comes up i get angry and she gets upset that I'm angry. I know the guys name, face and where and when he works. Do I just talk it through and put it in the past, or all incredible hulk on his sorry a$$?
2006-08-27 19:49:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are SO sweet to think like that! a lotta men won't even bother themselves with such a problematic past.
i think you ought to notify the police right away. you can't let him get away with that. he has the potential to do anything his dirty hands desire and just think of all the other women (or men... *shudder*) who might experience the same thing.
your fiance's probably letting her anger out on you. i mean she's gotta be angry at the guy for doing what he's done. if you do alert the authorities, it will all be worth it and trust me - she'll be so glad her love for you will increase tenfold.
2006-08-27 19:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Θ Chez Θ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the cops. And don't you take this in your own hands or you wlil be the one in JAIL.
If She doesn't report it this jerk will continue to do this.
There are cops that are very understanding and sensitive to women who have been raped. And many women are too scared to report it without evidence.
Your gf might be the last nail in the coffen, so to speak, for this abuser.
She needs to take him down with the law. A newspaper article about him wouldn 't do him well in his business life I am srue.
Just keep her safe, don't get angry. Hold her and love her and make her feel safe.
Nothing might happen with the cops,, but in a way it will be theraputic for you both to in a way hand the information to someone else. It is a way to take it out of your hands and into someone elses. In a way it hopefully feels like the two of you have done what you can.
It might be good for your gf to get some counseling. Maybe the cops can recommend a group of surrivors of rape group.
2006-08-27 20:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything stupid like attack him... that's what I would want to do if I were in your place but, you don't want to be the one to end up behind bars! Is there any way you could report him, maybe file a complaint to a higher person at that company? He needs to pay for his actions...or he'll most likely find another victim.
As for your fiance, I am sure she wants to forget about it. It's probably not the best to just shake it off. I think you should take her to see a therapist, maybe you could go with her. Even a couple of sessions could help.
2006-08-27 20:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As appealing as hurting the man might be, i unfortunately don't think it is the wisest option. As you said, she never reported what he did to her, and now with no physical evidence to prove it, if that sorry excuse of a man lays charges on you for assault, it will be your word against his. I think you may need to respect you fiance's wishes and try to move on from what i can only imagine is a really dark part of your lives. Good luck!
2006-08-27 20:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by lila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was WRONG in not reporting it. And raped TWICE by her boss? Once I could see, but I am dubious about twice. You can try and go to the police now and file a report but really, after the fact just doesn't cut it. At this point, QUIT bringing it up if she wants to move on.
2006-08-27 19:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to call the police and get that man arrested he needs to pay for his crimes. if she lets him get away with that he (the boss) is going to think its OK to do it to his next employee and that's wrong make him pay. I think its very Sweet how you really care what has happened in her past alot of men would just go on with the present and try to forget the past. You stay strong and help her to stay strong you are a very good man.
2006-08-28 07:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by spoiledrotten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go 2 the police or try 2 blackmail the boss
2006-08-27 20:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by indian beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to go to counceling. I know it sounds odd. But you both need to be able to express your feelings to a third party so he/she can see the root of the problem from a fresh perspective and be able to better guide your healing processes. Check your work medical plans. Most counceling is covered. Look into it. Good luck you two. If you stick together and be one another's support with patience, you'll make it out of this stronger then when you went in.
2006-08-27 20:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot do any thing about it , but she can. Go the police and file a complaint. Tell them what happened an let them take it from there., they can charge him on other grounds, harrahment etc. But he should be stopped before he does it to others Don't you do anything to him. it will just makes things worse .for you as well. .Tell her this then tell her you not going to say anythis else about it. Let her decide. Good Luck Pem
2006-08-27 20:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of wife-to-be, you must try to get this off your memory as it never has happened. She already had so much pain for what it happened to her. If you really love her you should instead comfort her. My advice to you is to move to other states far away from this ***hole. This would help erasing this incident from your memory. Oh, before moving you should pay this ***hole a visit and give him a painful lesson from what he did to your fiance.
2006-08-27 21:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋